Post # 1
I can NOT pick a bridesmaid dress. I have looked and looked and looked and can’t decide. Nothing seems to fit what I was looking for. I didnt think I had that many criteria but apparently I do.
What I was looking for…
1. Universally flattering to fit a 0p and a tall full figured (size unknown)
2. Not formal- casual wedding -(something like cotton sundress vs. satin/silk dress)
3. Won’t break the bank (prefer under $150)
4. Not red, black, orange
5. No embelishments (no sparkles, gems, giant flowers)
I figured since I didn’t care if the dress was all the same style but just the same color and that I was willing to look at a wide range of colors I thought this would be much easier. So far its been the most stressful part of this wedding. The typical bridesmaid dresses are either too expensive or too formal looking or both. The department stores don’t have large or small enough sizes and don’t have different styles in the same colors. I found one option but its $200 and the idea of $200 cotton dresses they may never wear again is hard to accept.
I just feel like I’m creating my own hell and that it shouldn’t be this difficult. The more I look the more I get stressed which increase my indecision. I’m thinking of just ordering several dresses with the intention of returning the ones that don’t work.
Post # 3
What about giving your girls your specifications and let them choose a dress themselves. That way you wouldn’t have to stress about finding a dress the suits everyone and they could pick something that is within their budget.
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Post # 5
Alfred Angelo has a lot of different styles and colors and is fairly inexpensive (my sisters’ dresses came out to $162 each with tax and shipping) but I’m not sure if they have cotton type dresses. A-line is supposed to be a silhouette that looks well on everyone. I picked out an A-line style for my sisters and one is 5’4″ size 2 the other is 5’6″ size 24 and it looked great on both.
Maybe you can find a designer you like so the color can be the same and they can pick out the style that works well on them.
Post # 6
@Snowy414:You might like this, keep in mind the flower detail on this dress comes attached to a real thin (maybe 1/2 in. wide) band that can be removed. They have several colors to choose from and it can be dressed up or down.
You might be able to find this dress at a local store to see in person, but you can order from http://www.toastbridal.com at their online store. It’s a real bridal shop in PA, but they have an online store and their prices are quite a bit cheaper. They also give you the option to add extra length for tall BM’s at an extra cost. Their shipping costs are reasonable (see their FAQ’s) and they respond quickly to email questions. I’m getting 3 of these dresses, 2 which are extra lenth, after shipping it evens out to $158/dress.
Post # 7
This is exactly where I start to drive myself insane….
@noritake22 I love that idea but worry it will look to messy with some many various shades of color.
@amyisnice I love the first one but worry that on my apple shaped BMs the middle wont fit well. On the second, I worry about the fabric and how it will look and if they will like it
@rothbridetobe I worry about strapless with busty girls, what if they are uncomfortable?
How do I stop doing that? I’m not sure if the issue is the dresses or me worrying about making someone uncomfortable (finacially and in the dress). I worry one will not like my choice and that upsets me. I have even thought about buying all 4 dresses so I could rid myself of guilt even though it would be a stretch for me to do that but even then I started worrying that one of my BMS will feel uncomfortable in the dress and be forced to stand in front of 150 people feeling unconfident.
I know I am making a mtn out of a mole hill but my mind just keeps spinning. The other wedding decisions don’t worry me as much because I’m not worried that purple calla lillies will upset or make someone uncomfortable but I do worry about that with the dress. This is so ridiculous.
Post # 8
I suggest talking to your BMs. See if there is something they absolutely don’t want and then what they loove. This way you can narrow all their “oh I hope she doesn’t make me wear that” thoughts before you show them a dress so they don’t feel like they will hurt your feelings.
ETA: I think it’s adorable how concerned you are for your BMs comfort 🙂
Post # 9
I also think that it is cute that you care so much!
This is cotton and A-line (which people say is pretty flattering on everyone). I Also think halters work well for a lot of people and it comes in a lot of colors…
they are the same dress, one is the manufacturer and the other is a retailer so you get an idea on price.