- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I know I am super stressed right now, and this is probably just a result of that but here’s my story.
Ok, so before Fiance and I met he met this girl at his brother’s wedding, and they dated briefly but they were long distance (she lived on the other side of the state), then Fiance met me for the first time. We dated about 6 years ago, and this was about 6 months after he dated and then ended things with long distance girl.
We had a good time, until she just randomly showed up on his doorstep one day! Well, he said nothing happened and they just hung out. Well, I found out later that this wasn’t true and they actually ended up dating behind my back for about 3-4 months until he finally broke things off with me and got with her.
Me and him stayed friends over the years and then reunited romantically in October 2010.
Well, him and her had been friends on Facebook which I never cared about. Until one day he made a very innocent comment to one of her statues and she turned it sexual and totally flirted with him calling him “Charmer” which was her name for him when they were together 5 years ago.
Keep in mind this girl is in a relationship with someone and has been for a while and is supposedly very happy with him.
I got a little ticked at her comments, she turned something innocent into public flirting. Did she not care if her boyfriend saw that?
And then a few weeks after that incident, she sent him a private message (which he showed me and he never responded to her) that she had a dream about him. She didn’t get into details, but that just kinda made me mad.
So anyway, of course we had a little argument about it and he ended up deleting her and a couple other ex-girlfriends (I’m sorry, I don’t like the ones who have to bring drama!) He stopped texting the one at all hours of the night, (which I thought was innapropriate.. text durning normal hours not at 2 in the morning!) And things were fine.
Well, here we are about 6 weeks out from the wedding and she sent him a friend request, which he accepted.
She’s actually friends with me on there, and she was stalking my profile and liking comments I made 3 days ago. Then suddnely he got a friend request. (She tried to befriend me after him and her broke up.. I just took it as “keep your enemies closer lol!)
So anyway, I know I’m just super stressed and reading more into this than it really is. But, she had a tendency to just show up. (She just showed up at my apartment after she “friended” me after their break up and cried to my roommate for 2 days about her and my Fiance and how much she loved him, and then once we finally got her to leave she went to his house and left a card for him. He was actually living with someone else by then, as this was like over a year after her and him broke up!)
I’ve made sure I only have sent private messages to anyone who asked about where the wedding is, but 99% of people on my FB were invited anyway since I only keep close friends and family on there.
But I am just paranoid she is going to show up. I’m not saying anything to my Fiance because I really don’t want to start a fight, and there is so much tension here right now as it is with our finances and basically we are working and coming home since we have to save as much as we can for the wedding.
I know if she sends him anything privately he will show me, so it’s not a trust issue but i just think that if this girl is so happy in her current relationship she should just leave well enough alone and let me and my Fiance be and be happy.