Pardon My Rant…

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I will add to this rant: “That will change when you have a kid.”

“You’ll think differently when you have a kid.”

I know they don’t mean harm, but these comments rub me the wrong way, too.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t have anything to say, except I hear you! And kudos to the line: “Oooooh my life is SO MUCH WORSE than yours, except it’s also SO MUCH BETTER THAN YOURS.”

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I hear you! I absolutely hate it when someone tells me that I don’t know what it is really like to be tired. I also really dislike that everyone I come into contact with always assumes I will be having children. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Amen. And to the fortunate ones (who got “surprised” by their children…) Do NOT tell me, “you should have a baby. They are so awesome but so much work.’ Uh, yeah. Been trying with no luck yet. But heu, good for you, fertile myrtle. Thanks for the reminder.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Ha this is so true. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I could have written this entire thing!

Post # 9
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee

I respond to people like this with extensive and detailed discussions of food, museums, etc. from the most recent European vacation I bought for myself.

 

Post # 10
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433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@chercee:  My friend and I were just having a conversation about this last night. You’re not wrong and you’re certainly allowed to be annoyed about this. I haaaaaaaaaaate when people think they’re better than others because they are parents and others are not. Like you said, maybe you can’t have children; that doesn’t make you any less valid! 

One thing that annoyed me greatly was when FH posted a rant about babies and iPads etc saying how if this is your only method to keep the kid busy when they’re acting up, they will eventually be so tied to this object and that’s not healthy. What did someone else say to that? “Oh just wait till YOU have children, you’ll feel differently” I wanted to say something back because he and I have discussed this in great detail because while we don’t want our children to be shielded from technology completely, we are most certainly NOT going to rely on it to keep them busy so we don’t have to.

That’s my 2 cents. People need to stop acting like they’re better for having had children. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@chercee:  It’s REALLY annoying to hear while you are pregnant too. Everyone keeps saying, “Oh you’re tired now? Wait until it’s actually born!” or when I’m running late they will say, “Oh wait until you have a kid!”

Huge pet peeves, so I understand where you are coming from. It’s really annoying that everyone thinks they know better than you.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

gah yes I hate it! I’m a stepmom and I HATE it when people say ‘wait till you have your own children!’ Yes, I get that I didn’t give birth to him, but I was there since day 1, changing diapers, getting up in the middle of the night, rocking him to sleep, planning birthday parties, paying for activities and medical expenses. I am currently running on 2 hours of sleep because my poor SS had a 103 degree fever last night and I spent the night dabbing his forehead with a damp cloth and keeping his temp down. I hate it when people imply that I don’t know what love is (parental or otherwise).  Also, smug parents of the world: tired is tired, regardless of why. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@chercee:  These people are insecure dinks. Let’s face it – a stray cat can reproduce. It’s no miracle, it doesn’t make you special, it doesn’t give you special insight. Instead of real accomplishments, they had kids. Meh.

Dont believe their bullshit, because that’s all it is – a way to build up their shaky sense of self.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@chercee:  I totally get you. I could have written this rant myself…except mine would have had more swear words.

I’m only 22, but have a lot of friends who are late 20s early 30s and are starting to have kids now. We don’t plan on having kids, and I am also sick of being told “You’ll change your mind”, “Your clock will start ticking” or “You’ll never truly have a family if you don’t have children”. 

I mean clearly my biological urge to procreate is more important than actually thinking about the implications of having a child, and I really love being told that my family isn’t truly a family…

If it gets really bad I counter with how disgusting I think children are and how sad it is that people are so unhappy with their marriages that they have to introduce new characters. (Neither of I really believe but it tends to shut up mother-earth types).

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