Post # 1
FI and I have the same question…what is the reason you give parent’s gifts at the RD? We both agreed that we wanted to do something nice for my parents because they are contributing…(short background…FI has a sister who is the favorite and gets EVERYTHING! FI’s parents have already told us they aren’t contributing because they dont have the funds…however, FSIL was supposed to get married but cancelled the wedding and his parents were prepared to give her thousands to help out!) But do we give a gift to his parents too? What are we thanking them for? (I dont mean to sound rude).
Post # 3
Could you just do photo albums? Here’s my background: My FI’s mom is throwing us a $800 rehearsal dinner and my parents are giving us a $4500 honeymoon….so…i’m going to do pictures. My parents will be annoyed if we spend a bunch on them after they gift us a vacation anyways, and FI’s mom, well, invited a ton of ppl to our wedding I think have no business being there. Are they throwing you a RD?
So, Shutterfly gifts it is! FSIL gave FMIL a 1 carat diamond pendant at her wedding 3 years ago. We’re not even going to try Especially after kerplunking 20K on our own wedding!
I don’t blame you. I think there are plenty of affordable options. I think it’s nice if they help you out, but maybe they are just traditionalists? However "not having the money" isn’t valid if FSIL’s wedding got cacneled.
Post # 4
If she likes jewelry, you could get her a pretty cocktail ring for like $150. Then she could wear it to the wedding…or nice earrings or a pendant…but I wouldn’t go crazy. Maybe a coffe maker if FSIL and FFIL like coffee? hmm
Post # 5
They are giving us absolutely NO money at all for the wedding…and we are not having a RD because FI and I cant afford it (FIL’s are paying for NOTHING). They also have no say in the guest list and have no clue who we are inviting (I didnt want to open up that can of worms with them!) 🙂
Post # 6
We are supposed to give gifts at the RD? I had no idea. My mom paid for my dress, and his parents are giving the RD…My dad is not paying anything, which makes me kind of sad, honestly. How can I give our parents gifts, but leave my dad out? Is this really a tradition, or is it outdated? Also, his parents are not aware that my dad isn’t paying and I feel guilty and embarrassed to tell them.
Post # 7
we are having a RD that esesntially we probably will pay for. both our parents are paying for the money so paying for a small intimate RD (which I think will only be cocktail styled, not dinner) wont be an issue.
I think we will just be gifting out parents with an album, the albums we are looking at are about $1000 each so they’re pretty pricey.
Post # 8
Solo payor here also. My parent nor my fiances parents are paying for a single thing. It really upsets me when my dad always forks out money for my little brother for stupid things but has not offered to pay a single penny towards my wedding. To top it off my mom is complaining she does not have anything nice to wear for the wedding and is expecting me to pay for a dress for her..Grrr Like said above lets not even go there. Our minister made the suggestion to give our parents thier gifts during the ceremony which we will then be giving them a small gift, nothing fancy. We are also not doing a RD well at least in a resturant setting. I am going to cook or get some food from a local cater to cut down costs. We still have a yr and our budget is already puking..lol gosh how the small things add up!!
Post # 9
We are giving our parents photo albums for Christmas (we are getting married in September). We made sure this was included in our photographer package. I was thinking about spending about $150 on my parents…but didnt want to spend that much for FIL’s.