Post # 1
My FI and I are on strict budget constraints and didn’t really plan on getting our parents anything. Not that we thought about it and decided not to, we just didn’t really think about it. Now that I am getting down to the nitty gritty, I realized I overlooked this. Most of my friends got their parents jewelry or some sort of emotional timeless token, but I can’t think of anything.
My FMIL LOVES jewelry, but she has super expensive taste. My mother could care less. Both of our fathers could care less and are the completely detached unemotional type (not to say they are detached from us, they just arent the mushy gushy type-they aren’t even giving speeches).
My mom would totally be a-ok with a personal letter and framed picture (she’s very mushy gushy), but his mom could probably care less about that kind of thing. I don’t want to give them something “uneven” but I need to be able to afford it. When I looked at our budget, I am thinking we can afford no more than around $50 per parent.
I am just wondering what everyone got these types of parents within budget contraints, or if it’s even a must.
Post # 2
texaslemon: if they helped you (financially) with your wedding, yes, you must get them a gift.
I bought my mother and MIL jewlery – my mom got a whitegold butterfly necklace and my MIL got a bracelet from Pandora
My FIL got a watch box from Things Remembered.
I also bought my mother and sister a charm to attach to their bouquet & corsage with a picture of my dad since he passed away.
I would suggest Etsy for something sentimental for your mom and even jewelery for your FMIL.
For the fathers, what tye of men are they? Are they handymen? Sports? What are they into? maybe I can suggest some things?
Post # 3
We paid for our wedding ourselves so I felt no need to buy any gifts for parents.
Post # 4
Daizy914: I would love to get my MIL jewelry-but I don’t think she owns anything under $200! HA!! Maybe if it comes from a sentimental place, she will like it still.
Our dads are def. handymen. My dad is into sports (running, biking…that kind) and his dad is into watching them lol
I think a charm or something would be a great idea for my mom and sister since my grandmother passed away. I never thought of Pandora- my mom would def. like that if I got her a few charms that were meaningful. I’ve never looked into the price though.
Post # 5
We are paying for everything. I won’t buy a gift to my parents, and I won’t buy a ”wedding gift” to my groom either. I want to treat my parents with a nice meal and honor them, but to me there’s many ways to express love and gratitude that don’t involve buying gifts and jewelry, especially if you’re on a tight budget.
Post # 6
I bought our parent gifts yesterday. None of our parents are contributing financially, but my parents have helped me a lot with ideas and logistics. They’re also letting some guests stay with them for the wedding. I don’t need to give them a gift, but I do want to give them some kind of recognition and thanks for their help. FI’s parents haven’t helped as much because they are out of state, but we know that it would be awkward to give a gift to one set of parents and not the other.
We are giving both sets of parents nice silver picture frames and we’ll give them wedding photos to put in them later. We’re not separating out gifts for each mom and dad because we figured that both would be able to enjoy a picture frame. I found some good deals at the stores yesterday and ended up spending $50 on each.
Post # 7
texaslemon: you don’t need to get something that is $200. She should appreciate the thought and sentiment behind it. There is tons of inexpensive and beautiful jewlery out there
For the dads I would checks out the following websites:
Is there a tool that they have been wanting? DO they drink? They have cool “Beer Baskets” you can get them. I have gave them to people as a gift and they loved it
Post # 8
bleusteel: That is a great idea. Something along those lines would be perfect for each. I like the idea of not seperating out gifts. I am not extremely close to my father. He has always “been there” for me, but we have not always been on good terms and have been through a few tiffs of not speaking for a few months at a time because of things he has said or done that hurt me knowingly. It would be extremely awkward for me to give him a sentimental gift.
Both of our parents are helping us financially, and we are paying our fair share as well.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
My parents helped financially with the wedding. We bought them a gift certificate to a nice restaurant in their town. We got my in-laws (who didn’t contribute) a wedding album/book, which they really like.
Post # 10
texaslemon: Traditionally, the gift to the parents is not soley related to financial assistance for the wedding. It is an opportunity to express your appreciation to them for raising you to be the person you are, before you enter marriage. The gifts are presented at the rehearsal dinner when you also give the gifts to the wedding party.
Sometimes it is easier to choose a gift that is for them as a couple. You could give them a frame with an IOU for a wedding picture, or even a giftcard for a canvas print to be ordered and delivered after the wedding.
Post # 11
texaslemon: Pandora is pretty expensive, one small plain silver charm is about $20 and they go right up to $650 for the more elaborate designs! I think your Mother & MIL will be grateful for whatever you get them as long as it has sentimental value, even if MIL doesn’t wear whatever you buy her because it’s not her usual taste then she can still keep it as a keepsake, don’t break your back worrying about spending more than you can afford.
I’ll be getting both sets of parents a framed pic of me & FI on wedding day along with a nice bottle of wine/gin & also a keepsake from the craft market in Cuba where we’re honeymooning, they both helped a LOT(FI’s parents paid for our reception catering and my parents paid for my wedding dress)but I’d much rather get them something sentimental than a flashy gift.
Post # 12
texaslemon: we have the same budget. We will be giving my mom and his mom the same gift but they will be from me to MIL and from him to my mom. We are doing sterling silver infinity bracelets from a jewelry store they are $55 each i think. They look very nice and timeless quality peices of jewelry that are reasonable. And we will each put a note saying “thank you for raising the wife/husband of my dreams”. We are only giving gifts to mothers, to keep our budget tighter and keep everything more fair. Once you start giving to so and so then so and so is mad..there are just to many step parents and spouses in our familys.haha.
Post # 13
We’re paying for the wedding ourselves. Both my parents are deceased. I don’t think the FI is getting his parents a gift. Personally, I don’t believe it’s necessary, especially since this will be his second marriage.
Post # 14
Anyone know a shop on etsy that sells quality jewelry that won’t break the bank? I can never tell from looking online what will just snap in half after a few wears, turn your fingers green, or make your ears itch.
Post # 15
texaslemon: We paid for everything so we just got them nice collage picture frames with wedding pics in it after it was all over with… We had the same jewelry issue- my mom doesnt wear it and if she does is happy with cheapo stuff since she’s so hard on it anyway. But DH’s mom likes only the best Pandora type stuff which wasn’t in the cards… I know alot of ppl get their parents canvas wrapped prints or wedding albums or similar…