Post # 1
I currently live with my parents. I spend the night with my boyfriend around two nights per week. I know my parents don’t support cohabitation and they have been turning a blind eye to me staying over with my boyfriend. They told me the other day that staying over needed to stop and was only opening the door to future problems. They were unwilling to listen to anything I had to say about it. I feel like they should atleast listen. Has anyone been in this situation before?
Post # 3
I wasn’t allowed to sleep over or have a guy sleep over at my parents house when I still lived with them. Their house, their rules.
Post # 4
Since you live under your parents roof you should abide to their rules. But only in their house, what you do outside of it is up to you. You’re an adult and can do what you want including having grown up sleepovers! If they wont listen though you’re in a sticky situation, it sounds like they’re not ready for you to grow up so I think you’d be best to move out (be it your own place or your boyfriends)
Post # 5
I live with my parents, and even thought I’m 25, I literally have to lie every time I stay over at his house. It’s extremely frustrating, but there’s absolutely no changing their mind. I can’t wait until we can afford to live together/get married.
Post # 6
Their house, their rules.
My FI and I are getting married in 3 months, and even now we wouldn’t dream of sleeping in the same room when we visit my parents.
Post # 7
I don’t want to lie to them and say im staying somewhere else. I am sure they would catch on rather quickly. Do we simply end sleepovers all together?
Post # 8
When I was living with my parents I would never stay over at FI’s. I knew they wouldn’t approve and just didn’t do it. One night though we were at his place and his car wouldn’t start so I couldn’t get home – think maybe 3am. I texted my parents to let them know. Next thing you know my dad calls me to say he’s picking me up. Ugh…
FI would occasionally stay over at my parent’s place – but would sleep on the couch in the living room.
I think in most parents’ minds sleeping over = having sex and most parents are not exactly comfortable with the idea of their little girl having sex…
Post # 9
I have not been in this situation, my parents are very open and when I became an adult it became okay for us to sleepovers when we wanted them. This said it is their house and it’s their rules. But you are an adult can make the choice to move out. Sit down with them and have a calm, adult conversation about this. Ask them why they are against it and then explain why you want to stay the night with your SO. It won’t help to lie to them about it. Have a good talk with them and then go from there, whether you move out, stay and stop your sleep overs, or you come to an agreement that works for all of you.
Post # 10
If you want to be an adult and play by your own rules, you are going to have to pay your own way and get your own place.
Post # 11
Are they telling you they are going to kick you out if you don’t stop? Can’t you just keep doing it even though they prefer that you not do it?
Post # 12
Question: are the sleepovers at his place or is he coming to your parents house? If you’re going to his, I think just keep doing it. If he’s coming to yours, definitely stop.
Post # 13
I have to agree, their house, their rules. I moved out of my mother’s house when I wanted to do whatever I wanted.
Post # 14
My husband’s parents where the same way, he was in their house until we got married and they didn’t want either of us staying the night at each others house. The way we figure it co-habilitation is a good thing, you begin to know the other person better as well as their habits which you may not be aware of until you marry. That being said if you live in your parents house you should respect their wishes even if you don’t agree with them. Once your out and on your own then you should be able to live as you wish.
Post # 15
That shows a severe lack of respect for those whose roof you live under. Until a person moves out they need to honor their parents wishes.
Post # 16
The sleepovers are always at his place. He would never stay with my parents home.