- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Hey there! I’m new to the boards, but I’m having some problems, and who better to seek help from than other brides!
My fiance and I are now less than four months away from the big day, and from the very beginning, we said we wanted a small wedding of around 80 people. We had a venue in mind (that we easily got, yay!), that would easily facilitate the small wedding of our dreams.
The problem is, my mother. I love her dearly, but even though I’ve repeatedly told her we want to keep it small, she tells me too bad, it’s a wedding, and I’m supposed to invite everyone I’ve ever known (okay maybe not EVERYONE, but you get the picture). It has gotten to the point that when I tell her someone is not going to be on the guestlist, she calls them, tells them all about the wedding and to expect an invite, commiting me to invite these people I’ve met maybe once to our wedding. When I try to explain that the venue will only hold 160 (per the fire marshall), she tells me it’s my fault for picking a small venue.
As it is, our once small wedding now has a guestlist of 167. My fiance and I are having to tell our friends they can’t come to the wedding because my parents insist on inviting people we honestly don’t care to have there. Even more so, thanks to my parents, I have 100+ on the list, where my fiance and his family have around 60.
I’ve tried on several occaisions to sit down and talk with her about it, but I’m really not getting anywhere. It’s getting to the point where I’m considering calling it off and having a courthouse wedding to avoid the stress.