parenting from a movie turns real life? Help please!!

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
15016 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

To me that’s not odd at all but when my mom lived out of state she would drive in for holidays and stay with my dad and his new wife in their home. My step mom is very ok with it, she’s actually a pretty cool lady and really makes my mom feel welcome, which my brother and I really appreciate as does my dad.

Post # 4
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would suggest you backtrack and graciously accept her offer of using her home while she stays elsewhere.

Post # 5
6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

My MIL was out of town and my FIL was going to be in town.  She called him and offered his new wife and my FIL the use of her house to save on cost of hotel.  I think you should jump at this chance, anything has got to better than spending all that money being cooped up in a hotel.  

Post # 6
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I don’t think it is weird she offered, in fact pretty generous. If you are uncomfortable staying that is understandable too. But on her end defintely not weird, maybe weirdly nice!

Post # 7
6667 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

That is not weird at all to me.  I think you need to do what you need to do so that kids get to see the non-custodial parent.  I think its a nice offer.

*edit- and I am divorced and have a daughter with my ex.

Post # 8
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Djacks88:  ehhhh I don’t think it’s that weird, to be honest.

I get how you might be slightly uncomfortable at first– but you’ve already mentioned how you get along.

She OFFERED to let you stay at her house– and she’s totaly cool with you staying there with her.  Clearly, she’s comfortable with it.  

I know a lot of woman would freak out about this, but sometimes you have to get creative.  You want to see the kids- but it’s too expensive to get a hotel….what else are you going to do?

I think it’s super cool that your husband and his ex can work together for the kids!

Post # 9
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Djacks88:  I should add that I have a kid who is NOT my husband’s.  I’ve offered to let my ex stay here, as well- and for his GF to stay here, too.  It hasn’t happened yet….but I’ve offered!

Post # 10
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Djacks88:  I think the offer she made should have been accepted. Honestly I am not sure what other agreement you guys could come to besides either staying home, which is probably not something your DH wants to do, and skipping the visit or asking her to pay for some of the fees incurred from satying in a hotel, which would be rude to ask since it really isn’t her responsibility.

I think her offering to leave the house and let you stay there, even if it is in her bedroom, was a perfectly acceptable offer. You should backtrack and take it 🙂

Post # 11
1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think it’s super nice that she offered, but can see how it would feel a little odd to you. Staying in someones home, sleeping in their bed, that can feel a little strange no matter who it is. Add to it that she’s an ex, even though you get along, I can totally see how that would feel a bit odd at first.

That being said, I think it’s a good solution. Clearly she is fine with it and so is your FI. While it might be a little odd for you at first I think it might just take some getting used to. This is a new situation for you, something that’s never happened before, so it might just take some time to wrap your head around. Once you’re there, settled in, and having fun with the kids I bet the awkwardness will not be on your mind anymore.

Post # 12
10454 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t think it’s that odd.  What about you 2 getting a hotel just for sleeping and spending the day at her house with the kids?

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