Post # 1
I’m a fairly open person and don’t expect everyone to agree with me. I like hearing ideas even if they are ones I disagree with because sometimes it helps me understand their position or soften my stance a bit. That being said I find mommy pressure emotionally stronger than wedding pressure.
I can talk about religion, sex, or politics with almost anyone but I haven’t figured out how to even talk about possible names for my little girl without someone getting offended that I might not pick their suggestion.
Post # 3
Yeah, some mommies can be rough if you don’t meet their standards. I got chewed out by my step-mom’s best friend because my daughter wasn’t potty-trained by the age of 1. Ummm, bite me. But luckily she’s Korean and didn’t understand that colorful phrase, lol.
Post # 4
I understand exactly what you mean. So often we can agree wit disagree on the things you mentioned but parenting is such a personal thing and so many things go into how a person was raised the the reasons behind why they were raised that way that it is difficult for people to understand why you may choose to do certain things.
Also, I think parents take their parenting techniques so seriously that any critiquw feels like a complete teardown of their parenting structure. I typically avoid saying anything unless it is someone I am extremely close to and would know just how to word it so they would understand. Even with my sister sometimes I choose to bite my toungue because it is not my place to raise her children. She does what she see’s as fit. Alas, I kno what your saying. It can be very frustrating at times.
Post # 5
That’s why I am not telling ANYONE
Just like the wedding…everyone will want to give their 2 cents. I don’t want to come up with a name and have people tell me they hate it. But once the name is attached to the baby…and not just an idea, I don’t think people really say much about the name. So my hubby and I will pick and name, and tell NO ONE! 🙂
It’s sad though that we have to worry about this.
My family it a little crazy and I am even worried about giving a middle name of one grandma because then the other side will get mad it’s not THIER name! geez! It’s silly that we have to think about others insecure reactions.
And I don’t want anyone to rain on my parade so my hubby and I will talk names…but I am not boucing around ideas with anyone else. My fragile ego can’t take it. LOL! 🙂