(Closed) Parents’ Anniversary Party: Inviting uncle’s ex-wife?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i would not invite her if she and her ex-husband aren’t friendly. i would probably explain it to her though.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would think that ultimately it’s your parents “guestlist”. the people that are close to them that should be invited… even if there are issues between other guests.

I would just seat them maybe on opposite sides of the room. lol

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not sure about the ettiquette thing but I would invite her. It’s unfortunate that they had a bad divorce but it’s your parents’ party and if they’re still close with her, she should be invited. I think for one night, they can behave themselves or keep their feelings kept aside for the sake of your parents. Your ex-aunt would be hurt if she was excluded and it just wouldn’t be right. Just don’t sit them at the same table lol. Have they attended other family functions post divorce? I know this is a sticky situation, I’m sorry. How do you feel about it having her come?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with the others that since it’s your parents party and they’re friends with her, then you should invite her.  However, maybe you should mention it to your uncle and see his reaction, so he’s not completely blown out of the water if he isn’t expecting her there.

My mom is the same way with my ex-brother-in-law.  He and my sister have two daughters together and my mom still invites to him Christmas and other holidays.  My sister has moved on with her life and they’re now friendly so she doesn’t care.  Sometimes people are just able to get over stuff like that.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would!
We had a similar situation, also a surprise anniversary party for the in laws! 🙂
His one uncle and his exwife divorced years ago, not sure how the divorce was? But the exwife has always been part of family events, she’s really quite nice and has kept the family name (which I think is kinda odd). But their cordial and all. So we definitely invited her! They may be divorced but she’s still family which it sounds like your (ex)aunt is so I def would invite her!

Have fun! All the hard work will pay off when you see the surprise on their faces! =)

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

How many people will be in attendance? Is it large enough that they can be kept far enough apart but still both interact with your parents? If they will create tension in the room, I would say no, though, because the highlight is supposed to be the joy a marriage can bring, not a terrible outcome of a split!

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