(Closed) Parents are deceased . Need Help

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

First off, HI!! 

On to your question. Some people do like memorial candles with pictures of the people who aren’t able to be there that they light. Another idea I have seen is having empty chairs that you lay flowers in where they would have sat in the ceremony. I’m sure the more creative ladies have some other ideas too!

Post # 4
425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012





I do like the idea of the placing flowers in their chairs. I think its brilliant.. Having a picture of them placed on a table stand by your side would be a neat idea (:

Post # 5
48 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

It will be a difficult day for you! I have the same feeling as you because, my mom passed away and would like for her to be incorporated on the day. It is untraditional but I am going to give a speech on my wedding day and talk about my mom.

Post # 6
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

During my brother’s wedding they had a prayer for all the deceased relatives, and they named them all.  They had my sil aunt read them.  This was a Catholic wedding, but not a mass.  I am sure this could be worked into a ceremony with a moment of silence also.  I also like the memory table. 

Post # 8
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My grandparents who raised me have both passed away and we are doing a video clip with pictures of them and other family members of mine and his and at the end it will say in loving memory of and their names.

Post # 9
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@FutureMrsNogueras:That is very sweet.

I love all the ideas you have come up with.

Post # 10
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

you can also designate some seats for them during the wedding ceremony. parents are usually seated at the front, so you can have pillows or their framed pictures in the seats.

Post # 11
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

welcome to the beehive x 


i am fortunate to have both my parents but my grandmother passed away 2 years ago and i miss dearly .. i too am having a bouquet charm.. although a lot of my fi family will not understand the sentiment i am loaning my nana’s favourite cup and saucer from my mum and she’s being given a seat on my top table as she would if she were still with us. i;m placing one white lily and her cup and saucer at her seat. then my bouquet will be placed on her grave after the wedding i will also be lighting a candle for her and mine and fi’s baby at the church. also when i was carring my little one i had a strange fascination with giraffes (i still don’t know why) my friend is a jewellery maker and she hand making a charm bracelet for me to wear on the big day. it will have a cute little giraffe and a lily on it. (my nan’s name was lily).


Post # 12
12 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

First of all welcome to the forum…..I am also new here and can say that all the members here are really helpful and supportive…..
One of my friend did the same thing on her wedding day……She wanted to incorporate her grandparent and what she did was….She reserved two chairs in the first row and place their photographs on the chairs with flowers……You can also do the same thing with your parent’s photograph……

Post # 13
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@FutureMrsNogueras: First off CONGRATS!! Im getting married in MB almost 1 year after you! May 3, 2013. I was thinking about your concern with the roses not floating away. What about a wish lantern? You and Fiance can write something on the papers and light the lantern together in the ceremony, after the poem is read you can release the lantern into the sky and watch it float up. At that point people’s thoughts and prayers can follow the lantern to heaven to your parents and those who can not be with you that day.

It is a hard day… I will be missing my Dad that day, but I am glad you found someone to be with, a new adventure awaits while those who love you watch over you.

Post # 14
2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Welcome to the hive!

Like you, I am an orphan. I’m considering the empty chair with flower for my mom. Our officiant is also going to acknowledge her during the ceremony before we begin our vows. Initially I was afraid of her saying anything because I don’t want to break down while standing there, but it helps to expect it ahead of time.  

Post # 15
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper


That is such a lovely poem.  I am sorry for the loss of your parents.  If the beach is windy would the roses blow off the chairs?  Maybe place them on a pillow gently tied on with a ribbon?  Take quiet time before you are with your SO to feel and acknowledge your parents there with you.  Best Wishes.

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