Post # 1
Long story short, my sister changed her date without telling us so we planned our wedding a month before hers. My parents have said that they are unable to make both weddings and since my sister’s was first (and they are paying for it), they will be attending hers. Yes I’m pissed…but what can I do right? Well my question is this, as I do not have a male relative that I am close to I was thinking of asking my best friend of 25 years to give me away. What do y’all think? I never expected that my father would not be at my wedding and I’m just unsure of what to do. I know that I do NOT want to make that long walk unescorted. Help!
Post # 3
I think having your best friend do it is a great idea, and a wonderful substitute! Especially since, in a way, best friends do give us away to our husbands who become our new best friend forever.
Post # 4
I am very surprised that your family has made that decision. If they can afford to pay for your sisters wedding and attend it, how can they not afford to attend yours? Yeesh!
But I agree with Mrs.C.to.bee, the friend is a wonderful idea. FI and I’s parents all live between 1000-9000km away, and at this stage in our life our friends have become our family. There is nothing wrong with your suggestion!
Post # 5
Yes to the friend, and no to the family. Seriously, they think this is okay? Because it isn’t, not even a little bit.
Post # 6
@crystalrae: I don’t think it is fair to judge OP’s paretns without knowing all the facts. Maybe all their cash has gone into her sisters wedding because they didn”t anticipate OP changing her date and having her wedding so close.
OP- what is the reason for them not attending? Is it financial? Is it leave related (as in they can’t take anymore time off work without losing their job)? Do you have a good relationship with them? How far/what costs would it be for them to come?
If it was my parents and the reason was financial I would pay for my parents to attend- no ifs buts or whys!
Post # 7
I would definately ask your friend, I’m sure that would mean a lot to the both of you.
I don’t understand why your parents can’t attend your wedding. If it’s almost a year away and it’s financial, isn’t that enough time to save? If it’s a matter of not being able to schedule time off work surely one years advance notice to a boss should be sufficient. Personally no matter the reason I’d be hurt that they can’t come to my wedding.
Post # 8
Asking your best friend sounds like a great solution.
Post # 9
I think having your best friend give you away is a great idea. Your friend knows you in and out and would be the next best thing to having your father