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I'd find out what he wants to talk to him about, first! Don't scare the boy!
It's between them; don't say anything. You don't know if your step-father will actually take action and talk to him. You don't know how your b/f will react or if he would like to talk to your step-father.
I would totally give him a heads up so he's not caught off guard, if they're really going to talk to him. But were they just teasing you? kind of like a solidarity "that-boy-better-do-it-soon" type thing?
If I were him Id want a heads up. Can you ask your mom what your stepfather wants to talk to him about?
I think that's really inappropriate. Can you have your mom tell him to mind his own business? My FI would have been really uncomfortable with that situation.
How well does your stepdad know your BF? Are they close? Do they have a joking kind of relationship? If that's the case then MAYBE it wouldn't be so bad, but still. I really don't think your stepdad - however good his intentions may be - should be having that conversation with your man. It's a big decision and it is up to your BF. He shouldn't be getting outside pressure from your family. Maybe from you, but not them ;)
Given that you and the BF just had a bit of a tiff over this, I wouldn't say anything.
You don't, as of now, have any idea what the conversation is about or whether your stepdad will even go through with having this particular talk. You're going to look more than a wee bit overzealous if you go warning your BF of a big discussion with stepdad about marriage and family that either never happens or is actually about, I dunno, sparkplugs?
Well, it depends on what the role your step-dad plays in your life and how close you are to your family. I think he is just doing this out of concern for you and perhaps him too. I say definitely give your BF a heads up. I mean if the shoe was on the other foot wouldn't you want to have some kind of warning?
You girls are right.
I am going to zip it. I doubt they will ever have the talk.
They are not close and we live about 30 minutes away from my parents so chances are slim....
I would just let it go. I know for a fact my father will have a half-joking talk with my boyfriend when they meet, and while I am away from them. I'd rather have it happen "without my knowledge". I think it's a time for them to bond and get to know one another.
But I say that because my BF and I have already discussed marriage. If it were a situation where that wasn't on the table as a reality... probably not. :) I don't think that's the case with you.
Plus my BF made me fend for myself with meeting his entire family on our third date... so it's payback.
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Hey bees,
So i had lunch with my mom today and she told me that my step-father had asked her when the BF and I were getting married. My mom said that she didnt know so my step-dad said he wants to have a talk with my BF. UH-OH
Now, my step-father is VERY laid back and doesnt usually say much unless something REALLY bothers him.
My question to the hive is, should i tell my BF that my step-dad wants to talk to him? I dont want my BF feeling pressured by my parents to marry me and I dont want to hurt his feelings in anyway, I do love this man and I dont ever want to hurt him.
What should I do?