Post # 1
I was just reading the Casey Anthony thread, and some posters wrote about recent child abuse cases that literally make me feel sick to my stomach. I can’t seem to get those stories out of my head. 🙁
I noticed after Addie was born that I became hyper-sensitive to child abuse stories. When she was maybe, 6 months old I saw this story on the news that even now makes me tear up just thinking about it. I used to be able to “get over” this stuff, I think, but now, it’s so much harder to forget about, thinking about poor little babies in these abuse cases (and sometimes their parents, too). It’s just harder for me to put out of my mind, you know?
Have you noticed this too? Maybe you have a stronger reaction to child abuse stories now that you have a child/children than you did before? I’m sure it’s just because now I relate every story back to my baby, but it’s just weird to care so much about these complete strangers on the news.
Post # 3
I felt the same way after my daughter was born. Before I felt sad but after I had a child it became worse. I feel so terrible when I hear about stories like that and it’s funny because I just said today why do people have children if they are just going to abuse them esp. when there are so many couples out there that are struggling with infertility or are trying to adopt. I wish I could save all these babies/kids and give them love. I also feel horrible when I hear stories about people abusing animals 🙁
Post # 4
Yes. We all imagine these things happening to our children and it makes it so much more real than just reading a news story about it. Mothers have the strongest capacity to love and suffer, because we know we’d die if anything happened to our children, and it’s so hard to imagine anything like the abuse stories you read being done to your own child.
Post # 5
I definitely do. I’ve always been pretty sensitive to things, but over the last few years I have had to be more hardened since i work with kids who have experienced the most extreme abuse. Once I was pregnant, I noticed I was more emotional when reading backgrounds on kids who were coming to our facility and after sessions with some of the kids. I don’t know what it’ll be like when I go back to work.
Post # 6
I haven’t really been following that case for this reason. I even find myself much more sensitive when it comes to kids being sick at work. A little boy in my class came in after having strep and still wasn’t feeling good but was on meds and mom had to be back at work. Usually I’d be understanding but I was so mad for his sake that he had to be there when he was clearly still sick and needed rest.
Post # 7
Ugh, you should try working with it… It’s awful and especially bad when I see a child with NAT (non accidental trauma) who is the same age as our baby. It just hits too close to home. When a child dies of it, I can’t help but think what a life the baby might have had in a different home or if the parents had more intensive parenting support.
Post # 8
@Mrs. DG: @mrstilly: I could not work with sick/abused kids for this reason. I don’t think I could work up the motivation to go to work in the morning. 🙁 You two are such strong women.
Post # 9
I find myself being more sensitive. In my mind, its “mothering the children of the world”, because somehow once you are a mother that is the role you kind of fall into. Since I became I mother I have been in situations where you end up taking care of other people’s kids by accident (some kid on the class field trip gets a bloody nose, or the neighborhood child falls off their bike in front of your house). Not to say that childfree people have less sympathy or compassion, but for myself, this “instinct” only kicked in after I had a child. So when I hear stories of abuse it is just sickening, and of course you relate it back to your own child. The one that got me recently is the Zahra Baker story.
Post # 10
I definitely have this same issue to the point where my husband will screen me from news. There was a really horrible story on the local news the other night and DH made sure that I didn’t hear the details because he knows how much it upsets me now. It’s like I picture every story as if it happened to my child and it just makes me so scared of all the things that I can’t control out there.
Post # 11
Right there with you. I’m generally just more sensitive about everything these days, though. It’s like when you have a baby, your heart breaks right open and never fully closes.
Post # 12
Yes, I notice I am alot more sensitive too. Only really to child/ baby related things. Anything where kids/ babies are sick or get abused a cry straight away.
Post # 13
Yes, I definitely have a stronger emotional reaction now. I’m so so sad to hear of these stories, repulsed and it makes my blood boil!!!! Before, it was like OH that’s horrible. Now it’s like HOW COULD THESE PEOPLE ALLOW THIS ATROCITY OCCUR? My heart breaks.
Post # 14
YES! I just cried reading about a 3 year old killed during the storms in the midwest. Stories about abuse and neglect just kill me.