(Closed) Parents flip-flopping on wedding budget…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you really need to sit down with your parents and explain that it would be a lot less stressful for you if they could set a budget that they will be comfortable with–in the long run.  Explain that, it is very generous of them to be paying for the wedding, but when you keep getting conflicting amounts, it makes it incredibly difficult to plan. 

Post # 4
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would suggest making up a budget on one of the many budget planners. I used one from marthastewart.com. It allows you insert prices for what you budgeted and then at the end for what you actually spent. Since you do not have a budget make one yourself. If your mother had an actual hard copy of your budget it may become real to her. Then you can make an agreement and stick to it. Then she can let you know that she thinks you are spending too much on flowers or whatever. She is definitely going about it the wrong way, but it has to be hard to keep all of those numbers in her head.

Post # 7
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335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

You aren’t spoiled, don’t worry. I’m in a similar situation and I feel so bratty asking for money but at the same time they haven’t paid for much but still spend money on themselves. Saying “you bought this so give me the equivelant in wedding $” sounds so spoiled and selfish but they DID agree on paying.

A lot of frustration as built up and we finally all sat down on got down to brass tacks and found some common ground but the whole situation took away from the joy of wedding planning.

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