Parents Friends With His Ex On Facebook: WWYD?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Sounds legit to me. You’ve already spoken to them about removing her and they refused, so now you guys have to do what is best to feel safe. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh my gosh, things like this are why I HATE Facebook.  Yes, I agree, you should defriend his parents if they’re going to aid his ex in FB-stalking your every move.  Good grief.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

What a sucky situation.  While the phrasing you used seems a bit harsh, I don’t understand why they even care about hurting her feelings.  Do they have a relationship with her outside of her former relationship with their son?  Maybe explain again that it bothers both of you and you’d like their support on this.

If they won’t budge, maybe find a way to limit what they can see and share of your fb activities?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think it would be best to ignore her and her threats completely. If she showed up somewhere to confront, then I’d more forward with a restraining order.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Ask them to block what she sees on their page.  You can do that without blocking/removing the person entirely from your friends list.  All you have to do is go into the settings on who can see your check-ins and status updates.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@badabing88:  I’m not sure I would say it so harshly. Also, I am not sure if this is hypothetical or not. If it’s not, I just found out that she is the mother of their grandkids and perhaps they feel a bond with her. They shouldn’t be revealing information that their son wants private (and to be honest, I haven’t the slightest clue how Facebook works), but they also can’t be told what to do (and be expected to listen). This risks isolating them and having them become even closer to the ex.

ETA: Ohhhh you said remove yourselves from their PAGE, not their LIVES. Well, that’s no big deal. Who the hell cares about Facebook 😛 I thought you meant you’d stop talking to them. I can’t read, obviously.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just block her so she can’t see your check ins thru the parents.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@badabing88:  That’s some scary Jodi Arias-type sh!t going on. :/ Harassing and stalking behaviors? What the couple is proposing to say to the parents is totally reasonable. Clearly, the parents don’t seem to care about the couple’s safety if they are still being friends with this ex and give that ex ammo to carry out her sick deeds.

I would definitely remove the parents from my FB if it were me.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@badabing88:  You can disallow others’ ability to check you in on Facebook in the security settings

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

He can either unfriend his parents, change his privacy settings so that only his FB friends can see what he posts, stop posting on FB every time he burps and farts because no one really cares, or drop FB altogether.  There are many options.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I think they’ve already told you enough, that an “if you… then we…” declaration is unnecessary. If you are uncomfortable with the consequences of having them as Facebook friends, that’s all there is to it. Unfriend without a discussion.

Can’t really control what anyone else posts about you on Facebook, realistically, so that’s something you’d have to address if and when this woman’s threatening behavior continues.

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