Post # 1
My wedding is still quite a bit away, but I’m ahead of the game & have started to throw around ideas of gifts to get the parents. My parents are paying for the bulk of everything.. his parents are not as well off, and aren’t able to help. His mom has offered to help with the shower, or something small.. his dad won’t be helping at all. My first question is, do I get his dad something since he is not contributing at all? My second question is, what have you all gotten/are getting for your parents? I plan to get his mom something small since she’ll be helping out, but I’d like to get mine something a bit nicer since they are footing the bill bascially.. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.
I don’t think that gifts for the parents are “payment” for what they contribute (or don’t). I feel they are more of a “Thank you for raising me” type thing. I would buy in accordance to that. IOUs for wedding albums or framed pro pics are alway nice.
Post # 4
IMO, the gifts should reflect your love and appreciation, not how much each parent can afford to spend. Is the groom close to his father? If so, absolutely do a gift. Imagine being at a rehearsal dinner where the bride’s parents and the groom’s mother were honored with gifts, while the groom’s father was snubbed? It would be awful.
As for what to get, it depends on what they like. We bought my mom and stepdad season tickets to a chamber music society, because they love classical music and chamber music in particular. We gave my dad and stepmom donations to each of their favorite charities, since they’re both deeply involved in working with them. We gave my ILs credits toward a cruise, since they love cruising.
You can also do things like a weekend away at a B&B, a really nice bottle of wine or liquor, gift certs to their favorite restaurants, something for their home, etc.
Post # 5
We are planning to take both sets of parents out to a really nice dinner at our favorite restaurant after the wedding. It’s the best way to thank them and none of them would want “stuff.” My parents don’t ever go to really nice, over-indulgent restaurants so I’m really excited to do this for them.
Post # 6
I guess it should be about thanking them for raising us etc, but I also do believe it’s thanking them for how involved they are with the wedding etc And honestly, his parents haven’t been involved at all. My parents went with us to check out halls, his mom has no interest in looking at dresses with me.. it’s like they don’t really care to be a part of it.. therefore I don’t see why we should give them a gift for just showing up. My parents have been super involved from day 1.. so I want to give them something as a thank-you.. I don’t know, I guess I should talk it over w/ my fiance and even my parents, see what they think.. it’s a touchy subject.
Post # 7
Our parents are contributing different amounts due to financial reasons and his parents have to travel (not cheap). I think we might give them different gifts based on things they like, but a picture from the wedding as well. Even if his parents aren’t involved, without them there would be no Fiance. So gift them for bringing him into the world. It doesn’t have to be as big (maybe just a gift card to a restaurant), but I think something would be a nice gesture.
Just my opinion…