- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
So, I’m in between a rock and a hard place right now. I’m not really sure if I should say anything, or if I should just leave it alone and try to move on.
First, the back story:
- We paid for our wedding entirely ourselves. That was our plan, and we had exactly the wedding we wanted, for a very reasonable $10,000 in Charleston, SC.
- Our wedding was 800 miles away from most family and friends, who live where we used to live, but Charleston is now where we live. As such, we didn’t expect much from anyone. As expected, we didn’t receive all that much in wedding gifts, but were pleasantly surprised by some we did receive.
- Last year my parent’s planned their 25th year anniversary vow renewal, which was basically a wedding replica. My grandmother paid for my mothers hair and makeup. I had hoped, but knew not to expect that my mom might offer to pay for my hair and makeup as a wedding gift.
Now on to my dilemma. My parents, who didn’t offer to pay for anything, and we certainly wouldn’t have asked; gave us $100. It’s less than we got from a number of people, and certainly less than we expected. We’re 26 and 24, and have been dating for 3 years, were engaged for 9 months, never asking for anything from my parents, but they treat us fairly well for holidays, which we obviously reciprocate.
I’m left wondering what happened. Do they not realize that many bride’s families help pay at least a little towards the wedding? They make over 100K a year combined, so it’s not an income issue. They are consistently helping my brother (a college dropout) stay on his feet. I was engaged for 9 months. Could they not put aside a little extra gift for their daughter?
During the wedding, they played up their role as MOB and FOB, crying, etc. They are getting photos from us, as we paid extra for our photographer and got all digital files. Yet, I’m left feeling as though this is all such a lie. Obviously, I can’t say anything. I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.
By The Way – My wedding rocked! Regardless of any of this nonsense!