Post # 1
Are you getting your parents a gift when you get married (or did you when you got married)? If so, what did you do for them?
I know that the practice of brides and grooms paying for their own wedding has become much more common, so I think the tradition of giving a gift to the parents has gone away a bit. But for those who did give your parents a gift, I’m curious what types of things you’ve given.
My parents have been very generous in paying for our wedding, and my FI’s parents’ are taking on all of the RD expenses, so we would like to get each of them a gift to say thank you. But we’re kind of lost trying to think of what! We are going to make each of them a parent album, but we’d like to do something else, too.
Any help is much appreciated!
Post # 4
We’re going to get them gifts, just not too sure what yet! My parents are going away after the wedding (same time as we are on honeymoon) so I’m thinking maybe to arrange a nice dinner on the beach for them or something while they are on vacation. Besides that, I have no freaking idea!
Post # 5
I have been thinking the same thing…. In Ireland the bride & groom usually give the mothers a bouquet of flowers…
My mum is doing alot for me, here the bride pays for the BM’s dresses and accessories, I was lucky enough to get a Bridal package deal and it came with the BM’s dresses!!
I just don’t know what to get her
Post # 6
@hardtoconcentrate: A suggestion I do have- which we have done for birthdays, etc. is to buy a groupon or use priceline for a night or two away at a hotel. My parents love that, we usually choose someplace about 1-4 hours away, so its like a mini vaca. We did it for FMIL, and I don’t think they were that into it. I would love to get that though!
Post # 7
I’m going to make each set of parents a nice photo album with our wedding photos. I don’t want to spend too much money, since FI and I are paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves.
Post # 8
We’re doing the albums for them after the wedding, but I will probably get them a gift for the RD. Maybe restaurant gift cards. and flowers/adult beverages.
Post # 9
This is just my own opinion as a parent, but here goes: A few words of love and appreciation in a note (maybe to arrive while you are on your honeymoon) would be an amazing gift. Most parents do the best they can to raise their children, and a few words of acknowledgement would be gold!
Post # 10
We paid for our wedding and did not get out parents gifts. Well that turned out to be a bad idea. My husbands dad was very upset about that. It kind of ruined our rehearsal dinner. He is very sensitive anyways so we should have thought of that but we were in such a rush with just getting the bridal parties gifts. Oh well. So I think you should get them gifts. I don’t think it has to be anything fancy but something to show your appreciation especially since they did pay.
Post # 11
our photography package includes gifts for our parents, so they will each receive a print (i forget what size) and we will also put together an album for them.
Post # 12
We’re going for the surefire gold of giving them personalized frames. There’s an etsy seller that makes wooden photo frames with a poem and our names and the date on them … so they’ll get 12x20inch wooden frames with “all that we are and all that we hope to be, we owe to our loving parents” with our names and the wedding date on there. Then we figure they’ll put a 5×7 wedding picture in there — either of just Fi and I, or of us with the respective parents, or something like that.
It’ll be great to give at the rehearsal dinner because I KNOW they’ll cry. All of them.
Post # 13
@MammaMouse: Thanks for sharing a parent’s point of view. I was kind of thinking something along those lines. I just saw this, which I thought was a sweet idea:
@desertgirl: Umm, wow, that sucks! Sorry you had to deal with that. Honestly, if we were paying for our own, I don’t think gifts for them even would have crossed my mind….so you’re not alone thinking that.
Post # 14
FI and I put a lot of time and energy into a slide show containing pictures of the two of us through the years. As babies, growing up, high school years, as we met and through college, etc. We added in a lot of really sentimental photos (us with loved ones who have passed away, pictures of us with our families at milestones, vacation pics, etc) and set it to music. We’re having it burned onto DVD and creating a custom case. We plan to wrap them nicely, with a handwritten note from each of us, and present at the rehearsal dinner. No, it’s not a really expensive gift, but it’s thoughtful and knowing our parents, that is what will count most to them. We bought them all nice frames with our wedding date on them for Christmas so we were really stumped, and this seems like the best option!