Post # 1
Just wondering what the other bee’s did for their parents in regards to the parents gifts and when did you give it to them?
FI doesn’t even want to get his parents anything. Is this okay? They did not contribute to the wedding and have not really been involved. I would like to get them something small, at the very least..but he keeps shooting down my ideas.
I am thinking of getting embroidered handkerchiefs for my parent’s and give them to them the day of the wedding. Maybe a mani/pedi for my stepmom (still not sure what to get her)?
Post # 3
Commenting to follow this thread! Thanks!
Post # 4
I thought we had to get our parent’s something, but the more I talked to friends, the more I realized that a lot of people don’t do that and were even surprised by the idea. In the end though, we ended up hiring musicians to play live music for cocktail hour as a thank you to my parents for paying for the wedding. We bought his parents a gift card to a nice restaurant as a thank you for paying for our rehearsal.
I agree with your FI- if his parents haven’t contributed, I don’t think a gift is necessary.
Post # 5
We are not having a rehearsal or rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding(no need..small beach wedding). We are however taking our immediate families out for a nice dinner the night before. So I’m considering that a gift to our parents. We have paid for the entire wedding ourselves so don’t really see a need to get them a gift.
We aren’t going on our honeymoon until March so we will likely bring both our parents back something very nice from the honeymoon as well.
Post # 6
I haven’t really thought about what to get our parents but one thing that I think would be nice, if they like this, would be a very nice picture of you two to put in their house. Both of our parents have tons of pics of our siblings and their families, but none of us, so I was thinking an engagement shot would be a good one. I also like the idea of the mani-pedi. I was thinking about that for my mom.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t get my parents anything. I don’t think they need a special present, especially if they are not contributing.
Post # 8
We got my parents a handmade album, so they can choose their favorite photos after the wedding and we got them a framed picture of us (their favorite engagement photo). For FI’s dad, we got him a digital picture frame, loaded with pictures and a regular frame with one of our engagement photos. I’m also giving my dad an embroidered hankie on the day of the wedding and I’m giving my mom a necklace.
Post # 9
My FI and I are paying for 95% of our wedding(s), but we’re still getting our parents and his older sister gifts, along with the gifts for our bridal party.
My mom has been a tremendous help in terms of emotional support and she made all of our favors for us, and his parents and older sister have gone out of their way to help us with all of the aspects of the hindu ceremony (of which there are many), and helped me pick out my sarees, they talked to the hidu priest for us, arranged for the cake favors, etc. So, we’re getting them all special gifts.
FSIL: necklace and earrings set from swarovski
FMIL: a beautiful new gold watch
FFIL: ? don’t know…we have a week to figure it out
my mom: ? Don’t know…I’m looking for something special jewelry-wise or maybe a Coach purse.
Post # 10
I got MIL a locket with a picture of her grandbabies in it, it’s off etsy and I think the babies like playing with it alot! FIL we didn’t get him anything. She did all the work, he flew in and flew out the next day.
My Dad is getting a copy off all our wedding photos on thumbnail and we already got him a digital photo frame so he can look at them whenever he wants. His g/f has given him limited space in the house i grew up in, to put pictures of his children up, so this should take care of that.
Post # 11
His parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner and my parents are paying for the wedding so we are getting them presents. I’m getting our dads embroidered hankies and moms engraved bracelets (thanks Etsy!) i’m also throwing in a resturaunt gift card as well 🙂
Post # 12
We got our parents each a “parents wedding album” (obviously we could not give this to them before the wedding).
On the morning of the big day, I also gave my mom and dad (each) a picture of me (as a baby) with each parent on the beach. On my mom’s frame, I wrote “I’ll love you forever, I’ll like you for always, As long as I’m living, My mommy you’ll be.” On Dad’s frame, I wrote “To the first man I ever loved, who taught me to follow my dreams, wherever they may take me.” Both got teary-eyed when I gave them the gifts!
Post # 13
@Rock Hugger: Doing something similar,
We got all the parents, we have a few!, special hankys (MOB, FOB, MOG, FOG etc). Inside the mom’s hankys we’re going to put a custom brooch from Etsy that uses a picture (we’ll use a pic of the moms with either the groom or me)<<this is instead of a corsage.
And as a Thank You gift we are giving the parents an electronic frame with all of the wedding photos pre-setup so all they have to do is plug em in…cuz we know they won’t be able to figure that out lol!
Post # 14
Its official! Just purchased my parents the handkerchiefs off of etsy. I have been etsy obssessed lately….
Post # 15
@Rock Hugger: OMG, I think I just cried reading that. What a great idea!!
Post # 16
I’m doing the handkercheifs, but I’m embroidering them myself, as I’m actually really good at it. I’m doing one for my mom, my dad and my mother in law. I don’t know what I’ll give my father in law’s.
I’m also doing a picture frame with an IOU a pretty wedding photo for both my parents, as my SO Is doing the same for his. I’m also probably going to get them each a really nice bottle of wine, and a locket/pocketwatch to wear on the day of, with a picture of me and them when I was a kid.