Parents give speeches if they are not paying?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll:
    Yes, both Father of the Bride and Father of the Groom should : (27 votes)
    32 %
    No only if they are paying : (9 votes)
    11 %
    It doesn't really matter : (49 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 5
    1243 posts
    Bumble bee

    So, are the MOH and BM paying for your wedding?

    I don’t know if my father will be attending, and he certainly isn’t paying for it, but should he be there, I would be delighted to have him toast his daughter.  Likewise, my mother and FMIL are both welcome to share their antedotes and blessings for us with our guests if they wish to.

    At the end of the day, this is as big of a deal for our respective parents, and their involvement in our wedding will have absolutely no correlation to their financial contributions whatsoever.

    Post # 8
    968 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @SeaSalt:  +1


    My father gave a speech as well as the FotG. I feel they should as they should be the ones to officially welcome the spouse to the family.

    Post # 9
    2581 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    I don’t know about the States, but in the UK the father of the bride always gives a speech traditionally, whilst the MOH doesn’t usually, and nor does the FOG.


    In the UK it’s usually BM, Groom and FOB who give speeches, although things are changing a bit now, but it’s usually with the addition of a Bride’s speech.

    Post # 10
    1254 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Why not? If they want to, they should! 

    Post # 11
    2699 posts
    Sugar bee

    We had a “whoever wants to speak can speak” policy at our wedding. We also didn’t have dancing and there was a lot of socializing so people were free to give a speech. Our guest kept it short so that was good.

    Post # 12
    6457 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t think you should base this on if they are paying or not :/

    Must weddings I’ve been too the FOB has given a speech and sometimes the FOG gives one. I have no idea who helped pay for those weddings but those speeches are common in my area and I think it’s a little silly to decide this based on who paid.

    Post # 13
    1599 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I had no idea that this had anything to do with who funded the wedding. I’m actually having a speech sign-up sheet so anyone can if they want to 🙂

    Post # 14
    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I also don’t understand what paying has to do with giving a speech.

    Post # 15
    1878 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    father of the bride almost always give speeches at wedding I have been to…. moh and best man too….


    i think we will just be having our father speak since the moh and bm are a delicate subject (prego moh, snubbed brother, lots of hormones etc)

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