Parents have to call priest prior to our Catholic wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
3777 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’ve never heard of such a thing!

Post # 4
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I am catholic and I’ve never heard of this. You and your FI are adults. Exactly what the hell does he want your parents to call and say? 

Post # 5
1959 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jennygrl070:  Our parents didn’t have to call the priest but they did have to go see him.  But only one of each our parents (my mom and his mom) went.  He asked them each a series of canned questions such as “Is there any reason why the should not be married?” and “have they been married before?” etc. 

I wouldn’t worry too much about it, probably just a formality. 

Post # 7
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

hmm… never heard of this.

Both of our parents have to fill out a form saying we haven’t been married, we’re in right state of mind to freely do so, we are both baptized etc.

maybe this is in lieu of a paper form?

Post # 8
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

My grandparents had to do that, but my Grandma was 16 and my Grandpa was 24!

Post # 9
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013


He prob. meant affidavit which is what our paper form is called.

Post # 10
5793 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Sometimes the priest will ask family members how they plan to mentor or support you if you have difficulty in your life, or specifically, in your marriage. 

Post # 12
2896 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we never had to do this.

but for some reason our church didn’t have my family registered as regular parishioners and since i was still living at home, one of my parents had to go in and fill out a form just to get us in the system, but that was it. it didn’t have anything to do with giving us “permission” or anything…

Post # 13
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Our parents had to fill out a form saying we haven’t been married before and that we are marrying on our own free will.

It basically is just to establish that you have the freedom to marry. 

Nothing to worry about. 

Post # 14
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

When I first read the post I thought it had to be to do with being free to marry! The priest wants to know that you have not been married before. This is easy enough for the Catholic partner because their notes will be with the dioscese they were baptised and confirmed in. However, they also want to know that the non-Catholic partner is free to marry. In my case, my father wrote me a signed letter of freedom stating that he was my biological father, and that I had never been previously married, and was free to marry, to the best of his knowledge. This letter could also have come from my mother, but the parish only required information from one parent, not both, in my case.

Post # 15
448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah my husband had to get 2 affidavits because he lived without his parents for mod than 6 months (not because he isn’t catholic), it was stupid. His parents had to go see a priest and the priest asked them questions, one of them asking if he is impotent. So stupid and awkward. Your priest will decide on their own if they feel you need them or not.


Post # 16
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I just talked with my parents about this exact issue.  We are getting married in a different state from where they live (And they aren’t Catholic).  Our parish requires an interview with the parents and the priest or deacon fills out the form.  Apparently, where my parents live, this is not normal.  The Catholic churches they called either wouldn’t talk with them or wouldn’t call them back.  Luckily, our priest is understanding and they are doing the interviews before our rehearsal.  I just find it awful that they churches around them aren’t returning calls.  Really?  If you don’t want to do it, just say that.  My parents are extremely frustrated, as am I.

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