Post # 1
Now that I’ve finally come to terms with no one from either of our families contributing to wedding costs, I’ve been thinking about ways to cut costs and one of them coming from our guest list. Our original guest list is about 120 people, but we’re giving a 10 person per parent allowence, 40 total since all are seperated. If we cut this out, it would be a huge savings (40 people @ $70/person for dinner and drinks). But I don’t know if our parents would be upset about this, even though they don’t technically have a say. We’ve been thinking that a majority of the people that our parents invite would be family friends or extended family that we don’t see regularly.
Are there any other bees in my situation? How many guests are you allowing your parents to invite?
Post # 3
I would just tell them that unfortunately you overestimated your wedding budget so you can no longer allow them ten guests. Instead they can each have one guest (which lets them bring a date if they have a significant other or a friend if they don’t).
Post # 4
You have to do what is right for you. Since you’re paying they technically have no say. I wish I had this issue – I’d slash those guests like a mofo! (im also super angry at my mother right now when it comes to wedding stuff though so I may be biased and negative!)
Post # 5
Sorry, I don’t follow the math in this post, which makes it difficult to comment… maybe you could explain that further (is it 10 Guests each or 10 x 2… for Plus ones)
Bride’s Mother x number
Bride’s Father x number
Groom’s Mother x number
Groom’s Father x number
Bride & Groom are having x number
So… 10 + 10 + 10 + 10 + 80 = 120
Or… 20 + 20 + 20 + 20 + 40 = 120
Confusing because I can’t seem to figure out where “family relatives” (ie Grandparents – Aunts & Uncles, Cousins etc) might fit into the Equation (with your Parents, or with the B&G)
Post # 6
@This Time Round:
Hahaha, yeah I’m sorry about that. Basically our whole list is 80 people, including our parents. If we allow each set 10 people then thats an extra 40, adding it up to 120.
Post # 7
Ah, got it.
80 for Family… and then 10 Extras for each Parent (friends, whatever)
Family alone and you’d just be at 80.
Nothing wrong with a “medium sized family only” Wedding IMO
Any fuss, and just say “sure you can have My first grade teacher and her hubby there… just pay their way”. Sounds fair to me.
Post # 8
@MrsWBS: I am too, but that’s primarily because mine avoids the wedding topic like a black plague. Since my engagement in April we haven’t had one conversation about it.
Post # 9
@MrsWBS: Haha, I think its going to be us taking out people under 21 and parents add ons in one false swoop! Hellloooo intimate wedding 🙂
@This Time Round: haha, that’s always an option. I just hate the “covering your head” thing. And the 80 would include close family and friends. we’re not big socialites 🙂