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There is a great post about when you met each other's parents. Now here is one for when and if your parents have met each other. We all have busy lives and it can be hard trying to get together with family and friends. And I would really like our parents to meet before the wedding. I wanted to set up a date to the flower show for both our mothers and us, but my mom has a bridal shower to go to...no not mine!! I might try again for Mother's Day to have a lunch together. Have your parents met each other?
Our parents have not yet met, but we are having them get together at our home in 2 weeks.
My family is in TN, his is in PA... so it wasn't really practical to meet. We are having a weekend wedding for the family and I thought it was great for them to have a few days to meet then, but his mom basically threw a fit, she basically said that there was no way that she would meet my parents for the first time at the wedding. My personal feeling is that if she cares so much, she should arrange something or invite my parents to do something.
Instead, I decided to make the peace and invite everyone up for a couple of days. I am pretty nervous about it and I really figure all the fam together won't happen much, but I thought this was the right thing to do. I hope to see other bees post about how it goes/ suggestions for what to do!
Good luck too Mary Alice...I'm sure it will be a good time...and that your parents will like each other. That is true that if she wanted to meet them then she could have called your mom. But in the end you did it for them and you can take the credit!! :)
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My mother threw a fit for a while that his parents had not done the "traditional" thing of making introductions right after the engagement. So, after much work with the schedules, we managed to arrange for us all to meet up for dinner during my FH's and my winter break at a restaurant somewhere between where our parents live (they are about two hours away from each other).
our parents met at the rehearsal dinner! given that mr. bee's parents live abroad, mine in la, and mr. bee and i are in ny, that was really the only time we'd be in one place at the same time.
Well it's good to hear that I'm not the only one with parents meet up troubles!! :) Thanks girls for all the comments!! Yeah my parents live about an hr from his and my mom is remarried and my dad has a girl friend...so we will have to make two meetings!
Both of our parents are divorced, so we have 4 different families to get together. Luckily there's no bad feelings (well, not much anyway), so we're not having to keep any exes apart or anything.
Anyway, my mom and stepdad met his dad and his fiancee first. His dad arranged dinner basically. Then when my FH garduated college, my mom and stepdad got to meet his mom and stepdad. My dad and stepmom won't meet anyone till the day or so before the wedding, cause they're OOT.
I was SO nervous the first time my mom met his mom. Actually, I'm still nervous at the thought of them in the same room. My mom is a very stereotypical uber-conservative Southern Baptist. Threatened not to pay for the wedding if we moved in together or had alcohol at the wedding, mentions God in almost every conversation, etc. HIS mom chain smokes, drinks every night, cusses constantly, used to sell sex toys, was really mad we're having a dry wedding, etc. Ack! But they did alright the one time they met, so hopefully things will continue to go well. *crosses fingers*
We haven't gone there yet... for a lot of reasons. I'm anticipating that it will probably happen before the wedding, though.
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Our parents meet every year for Christmas. The first time they met each other was 1 year after we had started dating. My family and his family came out to eat lunch together.
We're lucky that our parents all live in the same metro area that we live in; our moms met at a Mother's Day brunch a couple of months after we were engaged. That was a fun idea, everyone loves brunch and we had all their kids there, too. Everyone met everyone at our engagement party a few months ago, and there was enough wine to make that stress-free, too! 
Ours met a couple years ago at my graduation. FI & I already had discussed marriage (not officially engaged yet), and we thought it'd be a nice way to get the parents together without the focus being obviously on having them meet. It worked out really well; they like each other quite a bit. However, because of geographic reasons, we mostly see one set of parents at a time when we're together.
Liz I know how you feel...but I dont think my are extreme as that...but similar...good luck on your wedding day. :)
Our parents met 1 1/2 years before we got engaged. My parents hosted a July 4th BBQ and we invited his parents and his sisters. It was a lot of fun.
Our parents all live in the same area but WE live across the country from them so it's next to impossible to set up some sort of meeting. And considering that we probably won't be having a traditional rehearsal dinner, they may not end up meeting until our WEDDING day. Eek!
Our parents just met in January, and we've been together almost three years. (We also consider ourselves engaged, but aren't telling our parents until there's a ring to show them.) It went really well, they have a lot in common and really enjoyed each other's company. Our parents live in different cities -- his parents close to us, mine further away, and my parents' visits to this area tend to be very busy, and we just hadn't had the time before.
@D.Marie- Thanks! Glad to know I'm not the only one with a crazy parent situation. Good luck to you as well ^_^
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Our parents have met several times. We entertain a lot. BBQ's, Holidays, and recently a pampered chef party. They have never all been together in an intimate setting, but in an informal relaxed situaion with lots of other people to diffuse any discomfort. My mom gets along great with his dad and neither are really friendly with his mom. His stepmom is friendly with everyone. We learned this through observation. No fights, no uncomfortable dinners, just watched to see who gravitated together.
I highly suggest this kind of meeting! and several of them so they can get used to being around each other.
Good luck!
Good Lord, even at 38, the idea of our parents meeting turns my stomach. Not sure why. I know his parents REALLY well and get along fabulously with both of them. My twins and I have been to their home MANY times. They live in SC, my folks live in FL-so a casual meeting for a meal is pretty unlikely. I can't imagine spending the weekend together on a first meeting. Not sure when this is going to happen, but it just may be at the wedding.
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Our families went to dinner a couple weeks after we got engaged, FH wanted them to meet before we got engaged and I personally would be fine if they'd never met at all. It was awkard due to personality differences and differences in culture...but it was ok.
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Our parents met about 3 years into our relationship. I had moved to Sydney to be with my FI (then boyfriend). His parents had a work conference in the US so they decided they would take a side trip while there, to go to Boston for the weekend and meet my parents! My FI and I weren't even there! They met my whole family and my mom, of course, kept asking them when my FI was going to get his act together and propose! I was nervous but they ended up having a blast together.
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Our families have not met and we have been together for over 5 years! Our parents live 1 1/2 hrs apart, so no excuse there. Do you know what is even more strange? I live in the same city as his parents and they have never been to my house. My FI is very private and we made a pact early on that he would deal with his family and I would deal with my family - so far so good. I think we are going to get the families together to check out the ceremony and reception site, which is halfway between them. Keep your fingers crossed.
our moms had met very very briefly before we dated, really just like a 'hello, how are you'...my mom actually made it a point to meet her because she knew i liked him then...this was during high school so i was kind of mortified =). our families had their first official meeting the week before we got engaged. in chinese culture, it's traditional to have a formal meeting of the families, so it was my mom and our relatives in the area, and his family + a couple of close family friends. i thought it would be much more awkward, but it actually turned out decently well! after our engagement, our moms finally met one on one for a meal and really hit it off. and wedding planning between our two families has been the most painless process ever. it's just so funny looking back on it now b/c his parents absolutely hated me in the beginning (they didn't want any girl taking their little boy away from them *eyeroll*). who would have thunk it?
We've been together almost three years, and our parents just met in January. My FI's parents live close to us, but mine live several hours' drive away. We'd tried to get them together before, but it hadn't worked out until now. We all went over to my FI's parents' house for dinner, and our parents really enjoyed each other's company. They have a lot in common. His parents have a big Fourth of July party every year, and some of the extended family comes, and I'd really like my parents to come to it this year and meet some of them. Our parents don't know we're engaged yet, but we know they'll all be happy about it. :-)
Since Mr.D's family is from the UK I was worried that they wouldn't get to meet until the wedding. His mother and sister visit NYC every year so we lucked out and were able to all go up for the weekend to have a meet - up. Before that I really did worry they'd meet at the rehearsal dinner...
My dad met his parents about 9 months in to our relationship. Didn't plan on it taking so long, but it just worked out that way because of work schedules, vacations, etc.
His mother and grandmother both called my parents after the engagement. But otherwise, no one has met. His father is coming to town at the end of the month, so he'll be meeting my parents. But his mother and step-father probably won't meet my parents until the out of town dinner the night before the wedding. Such is life when no one lives close to us!
Our parents have met each other once, and it was right before we got engaged last September. I wasn't too worried about them getting to know each other, but my FI came home from our friends' wedding reception Saturday talking about how we really need to plan a weekend for them to spend together. I'm not so sure ...
Our parents met once right before we got engaged. I nervously drank copious quantities of wine to soothe my jitters, which did wonders for my anxiety :-)
Our parents are practically BFFs at this point! ha. It's so bizarre to us, but everyone's happy so it works!
They met for the first time at a football game tailgate, and thankfully we were all a couple of beers down before it happened, I think it eased the tension for everyone!
I was afraid our parents wouldn't meet before the wedding week due to the distance but a little over a year ago, just after we got engaged, my parents came to visist us. At the time, we were living about 4 hours away from his parents so they drove down for a day, we went to a nice lunch and then all drive up to his parents hous. However, this is where the visit went incredibly wrong. FI's car was making odd sounds and his dad insisted on taking the car to his trusted mechanic but did not feel it was safe for anyone but him to drive the distance in so he took off in FI car while FI drove his parents car with my parents and I and FI's sister drove their mom and brother (she had driven down in a seperate car in order to have room for her dog). When we arrived at his parents house, no one was there. It was at this point that FI realized his phone was out of batteries and mine was in the trunk. We waited about 10 minutes and his sister pulled up. No one had heard from his dad and since he left first, we all began to worry. Rightfully so, while driving, one of the wheels had come lose and caused him to swerve off the road after about 2 hours of driving. Aparentlyy he tried calling all of us but no one answered so he called a friend to meet him and left the car at a rest stop along the freeway. FI's mom took FI's dad to the hospital, my parents just tried not to get in the way and since we were hosting a bit of an engagement party the next day, FI and I along with my parents got busy setting up tables in the rented tent. There was no family bonding but the next day at the party they got to get to know each other better and FI's dad was not seriously injured so it worked out in the end. I guess it will always make for a good story, hopefully their wedding meeting will be a lot less eventful.
my mum (dads dead) and his parents met at a restaurant and it was pretty bad. they got to the restaurant first and his parents ordered drinks (no problem with that) and their meals before we even got there - we were not late but they were early. my FI tried to stop them but they shut him down. so we arrive and i give intros and the meals arrive and they start eating before we (inc FI) have even ordered.
hubbys dad thinks he will be clever to butcher the italian language and speak to my mum in italian (my mum speaks perfect english btw) while his mum tells her all about the money my FI wastes on scuba diving and she hopes im not as irresponsible. so that was awkward enough but when it came to the bill his father grabbed it and did the values and told me how much i had to pay and how much FI had to pay - my FI took the bill off him and paid for it all
so on the way home i had to hear from my mother how cheap and rude FI's parents were
but this was not to bad considering shortly after we became engaged my mum invited his parents to her house for lunch, my mother even cooked lamb (FI's family is greek) and she HATES lamb and in my lifetime its never been cooked in her home ever. anyways the FIL's arrive - FI's mum, dad and his 2 brothers and they announce that they werent hungry because they stopped off at the RSL on the way and had a huge buffet lunch.... considering between my mums house and their house its about 6miles so they werent at risk of starving to death for a 12.30pm lunch!
my mum and his mum are ok with eachother, they will never be friends but they call each other every few weeks out ot courtesy but im sure they bitch about us so at least they have something in common now
Our parents (and our families!) will meet at our engagement party, ten months prior to our wedding. I don't think that they're going to mesh very well, and we're never going to be a family where both sets of grandparents do holidays together every year (my best friend's parents and in-laws ENJOY spending time together! theirfamilies couldn't wait for the wedding after the pre-wedding celebrations so they could see each other!).
My fiance's mom has not been really supportive or interested in our relationship, so she has shown no interest in doing any wedding stuff, including meeting my parents.
We met my freshman year of college so our parents met when we studied abroad together, at graduation, and then again when we got engaged. Lots of meetings going on. And I was nervous every single time!
Our parents met one another 12 years ago...before we even started dating! We were friends for almost 9 years before we started dating and our parents met at a banquet for our college marching band.
It was definitely a relief that by the time we started dating and got engaged, our parents already knew each other. We didn't have all the stress that goes along with the "meeting the parents" after we got engaged.
My parents and his parents live about 45 minutes from each other. However, they did not meet until after we got engaged, when we had already been together for five years! They finally had dinner together after we got engaged, and now they (and all of us) get together fairly often.
Our parents knew each other from when we were younger. We didn't know each other back then, but our parents did. They hadn't seen each other in many years though, so it was fun when we finally got them together again. our mom's had so much fun gossiping!
My parents are on the west and his are back east, but we managed to spend the Christmas before the wedding together in San Francisco. It was mostly coincidental, since SIL was pregnant and her parents really came to see her. My parents are divorced so we had to do it twice. It was fine. Both our dads went to the same college at the same time (didn't know one another) so they had plenty to chat about. Funny thing with our moms is after dinner and a drink we head back to the hotel relieved it had gone so well and that it was over. About an hour later we get a call from our incredibly drunk mothers, who had ended up heading back to the bar to find MIL's cell phone, and thought to have a few more. Oh well, it certianly broke the ice.
our parents met each other the night before our engagement party because his parents flew in from LA and we are in the bay area so my parents wanted to treat them for dinner and they got a long great... his parents are very much like him... and my parents are very much like me... so we thought they might get long since we do. ^_^
Our parents will end up meeting at the Welcome BBQ 2 days before our wedding. There are 3000 miles between our parents and this will be the first time they'll even be in the same time zone! lol it just doesn't make sense to have one family fly out to meet the other.
I am so nervous about our parents meeting! We've been trying to set a date to have dinner with everyone, but this summer has been so crazy that when my parents are in town, his aren't and when mine are gone, his are home. So hopefully we'll be able to get everyone together by the end of August. I imagine everything will go fine. His parents are very outgoing and mine are super laid back so I don't foresee an awkward time. ::crosses fingers::
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