(Closed) Parents meeting each other

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Our parents have not yet met, but we are having them get together at our home in 2 weeks.

My family is in TN, his is in PA… so it wasn’t really practical to meet. We are having a weekend wedding for the family and I thought it was great for them to have a few days to meet then, but his mom basically threw a fit, she basically said that there was no way that she would meet my parents for the first time at the wedding. My personal feeling is that if she cares so much, she should arrange something or invite my parents to do something.

Instead, I decided to make the peace and invite everyone up for a couple of days. I am pretty nervous about it and I really figure all the fam together won’t happen much, but I thought this was the right thing to do. I hope to see other bees post about how it goes/ suggestions for what to do!

Post # 5
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My mother threw a fit for a while that his parents had not done the "traditional" thing of making introductions right after the engagement.  So, after much work with the schedules, we managed to arrange for us all to meet up for dinner during my FH’s and my winter break at a restaurant somewhere between where our parents live (they are about two hours away from each other).

Post # 6
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1156 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

our parents met at the rehearsal dinner!  given that mr. bee’s parents live abroad, mine in la, and mr. bee and i are in ny, that was really the only time we’d be in one place at the same time.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Both of our parents are divorced, so we have 4 different families to get together. Luckily there’s no bad feelings (well, not much anyway), so we’re not having to keep any exes apart or anything.

Anyway, my mom and stepdad met his dad and his fiancee first. His dad arranged dinner basically. Then when my FH garduated college, my mom and stepdad got to meet his mom and stepdad. My dad and stepmom won’t meet anyone till the day or so before the wedding, cause they’re OOT.

I was SO nervous the first time my mom met his mom. Actually, I’m still nervous at the thought of them in the same room. My mom is a very stereotypical uber-conservative Southern Baptist. Threatened not to pay for the wedding if we moved in together or had alcohol at the wedding, mentions God in almost every conversation, etc. HIS mom chain smokes, drinks every night, cusses constantly, used to sell sex toys, was really mad we’re having a dry wedding, etc. Ack! But they did alright the one time they met, so hopefully things will continue to go well. *crosses fingers*

Post # 9
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

We haven’t gone there yet… for a lot of reasons.  I’m anticipating that it will probably happen before the wedding, though.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Our parents meet every year for Christmas.  The first time they met each other was 1 year after we had started dating.  My family and his family came out to eat lunch together.

Post # 11
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796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We’re lucky that our parents all live in the same metro area that we live in; our moms met at a Mother’s Day brunch a couple of months after we were engaged. That was a fun idea, everyone loves brunch and we had all their kids there, too. Everyone met everyone at our engagement party a few months ago, and there was enough wine to make that stress-free, too!  

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ours met a couple years ago at my graduation.  FI & I already had discussed marriage (not officially engaged yet), and we thought it’d be a nice way to get the parents together without the focus being obviously on having them meet.  It worked out really well; they like each other quite a bit.  However, because of geographic reasons, we mostly see one set of parents at a time when we’re together.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Our parents met  1 1/2 years before we got engaged.  My parents hosted a July 4th BBQ and we invited his parents and his sisters. It was a lot of fun.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Our parents all live in the same area but WE live across the country from them so it’s next to impossible to set up some sort of meeting. And considering that we probably won’t be having a traditional rehearsal dinner, they may not end up meeting until our WEDDING day. Eek!

Post # 16
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756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Our parents just met in January, and we’ve been together almost three years.  (We also consider ourselves engaged, but aren’t telling our parents until there’s a ring to show them.)  It went really well, they have a lot in common and really enjoyed each other’s company. Our parents live in different cities — his parents close to us, mine further away, and my parents’ visits to this area tend to be very busy, and we just hadn’t had the time before. 

 

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