Post # 1
so…FI and I have been together a little over 2 years and our parents have never met. we are about 2 months away from the wedding and have been trying to set up a meeting for a while. Well we have dinner tonight at 6:30 the 6 of us! well now 7 of us…i was really excited until i got an email from FI this morning saying his parents invited a priest friend of theirs, Father Michael. FI and I have never met him, i guess his parents sponsored him through seminary school. normally this kind of thing doesnt bother me, the more the merrier i always say but for some reason im really ticked off about this. FI’s family is very religous, typical roman catholics…i was brought up catholic but its was not practiced in the home like it was for FI. Im just really nervous this is going to turn into some kind of religious discussion or marriage prep. I was hoping for a nice relaxed dinner with our parents but now im super nervous and kind of mad that they would just invite someone that none of us know. just needed to vent a little…not much i can really do. Thanks for listening!
Post # 3
@totheislnds: OK that seems weird. I would probably ask FI to tell his parents that the priest can’t come. Do they need moral support or something to meet your parents? I don’t know, but it just seems like this should be a private thing between both sets of parents, and you and your FI. Having the priest kind of makes a potentially awkward meeting even moreso.
Post # 4
I think that is a little weird for a first meeting between the two families.
Post # 5
@JamaicaBride: oh good! im glad you think its a little strange too. i just dont want it to turn into FI parents and priest catching up, and FI and I entertaining my parents. i def think in a setting like this religion and politics is the aboslute first thing you try and avoid. I know FI and he is super embarrased this is happening, he would tell them we cant come before he would tell them they cant bring the priest.Thank goodness we did grow up catholic or my parents would be in for a ride…should be interesting to say the least. and very awkward.
Post # 6
that is pretty weird. if the conversation starts getting awkwward change the subject! lol good luck tell us how it goes
Post # 7
I would feel weird too..and peeved that plans were changed like that..especially to something as special as your parents first meeting. =)
I have a funny story about my parents meeting FI’s parents. FI and I were only together for a few weeks when my parents were “dying to meet his parents.” I freaked, then came up with million reasons to avoid having them meet until at least 1 year later (mom went out of state, relative in town..working..you name it..) One weekend within one month of us dating, FI and I took my parents shopping at a new mall. We were at a department store, FI went to look for an associate while I was browsing when he came back and said “you should introduce them.” which I heard “you introduce” so I introduced myself to the sales lady even though I was beyond confused why FI wanted me to do that. She looked at me funny when i shook her hand as I glaced at FI, him stepping aside and revealed his parents standing right behind him (FI is 6′ and towers over his parents at 5’5 and 5’3). My mouth dropped to the floor and I blurted out “crap” then walked back and forth not knowing which direction to go (I think I must have wanted to hide). FI’s parents are really shy people so they were literally hiding behind FI.