Parents names on invites?

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@vanike:  I’m not sure what the etiquette is but we are including both sets of parents on our invites regardless of who is paying or helping us with the wedding. The wording on our invite will pretty much say that both sets of parents requests the honor of the guests to attend the marriage of their children (meaning me and my fiance). I don’t recall ever receiving a wedding invitiation without both sets of parents’ names.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

My parents paid for the wedding. My ILs paid for rehearsal dinner. We only put my parents name on the invite. 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My parents paid for almost everything, and DH and I paid for most of the rest. His parents contributed very little.  We put my parents as the host, but used the “son of” line after his name on the invitation

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Your Parents

and

FI’s Parents

Request blah blah blah.

Bride’s father always goes first! Then bride’s mother, groom’s father, groom’s mother.

And if there’s step parents, it just gets longer!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you should make your invitation say something like “bride name and groom name together with their parents request…” 

I am sure if you want to include their names you can– so it would read “bride and groom together with their parents Mr & Mrs. Last name…” But I personally feel not including the names is fine! 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

To add, I was recently invited to a wedding where the parents were divorced and only the mother of the bride and parents of the groom were contributing. The father of the bride was not. Names were not on the invitation at the brides request so I do not think it is necessary! 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@abbie017:  +1. This is what we are going to do as well. I just received an invite today with that wording as well

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

vanike

Im not sure about etiquette but i did not put ours on our invite because it was an informal wedding. One other reason i decided not too. is because my dad is passed and mom remarried. I felt odd claiming him as my dad. Not that i dont like him it just seemed weird. I guess i didnt think about it but they did pay for most of the wedding. I prob should have gave them probs some how. but grooms family did not pay for a thing.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We’re thinking of doing:

BowserGirl

Daughter of BowserDad and BowserMom

and

HandsomeFI

Son of FIDad and FIMom

Request the pleasure of your company

as they exchange marriage vows

blahblahblah

We’re paying a little, my FI’s family is paying for quite a bit, and my parents are paying for most of it. We wanted all our names on there, and I wanted FI and I to be the hosts. Although if I ask my mother and she and my dad really want to be listed as the hosts, then I will word it differently. Nonetheless, I want all names on.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You don’t have to, but properly, if they help pay, they are co-host and should be on the invite.  But as long as you don’t hurt anyone feelings, I don’t see why you have to.  I, on the other hand- had to include others names.  If my co-host is half as sensitive as she is bossy…

Our names still went first as it read:

My name/ &/ his name/ together along with the groom’s parents/ (names)/ invite you bla bla bla.

This website helped me alot

http://www.bellafigura.com/letterpress/etiquette/

Post # 14
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Newbee

I’m not getting married yet but it would be awkward in our case. His parents are both remarried and my parents were never married. Both my parents have SO’s. That would be a huge mess for us.

You could always say ‘Family and friends of (bride and groom) are pleased to announce their wedding’

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it would be nice to add their names but not necessary.  My parents paid for 100% of the wedding so we only included their names on the invite.

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