(Closed) Parents of BMs and MOH…

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had two bridesmaids and a matron of honor.  I am close with my bridesmaids’ parents because I’ve been around them a lot.  I grew up with my two bridesmaids and went to school with them.  They are also sisters in law (one bridesmaid is married to other bridesmaid’s brother).  I invited their parents, but not my matron of honor’s.  Even though I know them well and have spent time with them, my matron of honor was my college roommate for four years, and her parents live out of state.  I just don’t see them like I do the others.  

Oh, and my parents were invited to one bridesmaid’s wedding and not my matron of honor’s.  Other bridesmaid isn’t married yet.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m inviting the parents of two of my bridesmaids, as they are family friends and I’m very familiar with both of them; one of the mother’s of a bridesmaid is also doing our photography!

The other two of mine I know very recently from a new town and don’t know their parents, so they’re not invited. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We invited parents of all the bridal party. We had 6 BM and GM and 1 usher, 4 of them were family, so obviously their parents where invited.  The others were very close friends and we are close to their parents as well, so they were all invited.  Oddly enough one of my BMs mom was one of the most emotional people at the wedding.

If you’re not close with their parents, I don’t really see a need to invite them, unless you have the space and budget for it. In that case, I think it would be a nice gesture.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I had six bridesmaids, but I only invited the parents of two.  One BM was the sister of the groom, so I guess I kind of sort of had to invite them.  The other BM whose parents were invited is a girl I grew up with.  Her parents are my brother’s godparents, and my parents are her sister’s.  My parents were invited to this BM’s wedding a couple years ago.  Her parents are as good as family, and there’s no way I could have not invited them.

As for my MOH’s parents and the parents of the remaining three BMs?  No way.  I’ve either never met or only once briefly met the parents of two of them.  I’ve met the parents of my MOH and the other BM several times, but we’re not close.  I briefly considered inviting my MOH’s parents, since my MOH hosted my bridal shower at their house, but after discussing it with my MOH, we decided it would be weird.

In short: invite your BMs’ parents if they are close to you and you want them there.  Don’t if they aren’t.

Another easy way to decide: Are you Facebook friends with your BMs’ parents?  If so, then consider inviting them.  If not, you’re almost certainly not close to them, so don’t.  🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

If you feel closer to one set of parents than another it’s fine! The only reason I could see this being an issue is if the parents know each other. Do they? 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We invited parents of the bridal party that I was close to or that my mom was friends with. One of my bridesmaids, I didn’t even know her parents and had never even met them, so they were not invited. One of my bridesmaids, her dad was a vendor. Another one, her parents live in a different country so weren’t in attendance obviously. Two of my bridesmaids were cousins and their parents were there, one of my bridesmaids was the daughter of my mom’s best friend, another is the daughter of close family friends who would’ve been invited regardless of the bridal party. The last bridesmaid I also barely know her parents so they were not invited. I’m in a wedding tomorrow and my mom (parents are divorced, my dad doesn’t know my friends) was not invited.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Personally I don’t think your  MOh should expect an invite when you don’t really have a relationship with their family.

I been to and in a lot of weddings. Sometimes other members of the bridal party family are invited and mine aren’t. I never take offensive. I think it’s reasonable for you to invite her parents who sound like family friends and not your MOH. My cousin, and two childhood friends parents are invited. Again because we met as children so our parents all know each other pretty well, and in some cases still live next door to each other. 

My Parents even get invited to classmate/ childhood friends weddings which my brothers and I don’t get invited too. So it’s just a case by case situation. If your Moh ask you can tell her, or explain to her before she ask.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you’re not good friends with the MOH’s parents then I see no reason to invite them. The BM’s parents are getting invited because they are family friends, not because they are parents of the BM.

I’ve certainly never heard of any (reputable) etiquette that you must invite the parents of bridal party members.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had 7 attendants.  Two were our siblings, so parents were invited by default.  My two best friends from highschool’s parents referred to me as “daughter #3” so they were invited as well.  DH’s friend is now married to his sister, and they all grew up together, so his parents were invited.  His other two groomsmen were newer friends from work, and we’d never met either of them so they were not.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

On a side note….we also invited my husband’s brother’s girlfriend’s parents….we celebrate holidays with them and they’ll probably be my brother in law’s inlaws someday, so we didn’t want to leave them out.  They came all the way from Connecticut whereas lots of my husband’s extended family couldn’t be bothered to.  Just use your best judgment and you can’t go wrong.  

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