Post # 1
My fiance’s 2 nieces are our flower girls. One lives out of state (4yrs old) and one I know well enough but we’re hardly “close” (2 yrs old)
My question is: How do I discuss what they will be wearing? Do I just assume that their moms will communicate with one another because they’re ACTUALLY family already? I don’t want to get all bridezilla on them but I’d like to be clued in to what ideas they have and maybe be told what they want to have them wear?
Post # 3
I would say that you would be well within your rights to say what you want your flower girls to wear at the wedding. I would say that you could either give them a general idea of what you are looking for (white dresses, tutus, colored dresses, etc), or give a specific dress that you want. I see a flower girl as being similar to a BM, in that you get to choose the dress (as long as you don’t pick something too expensive! At 2 and 4, they won’t be able to wear it for more than a few months!)
I had an idea of what I wanted my FG to wear, and I ended up going shopping with my FG and her mom (my sis and BM) to pick something out.
Post # 4
For my flower girl, I just bought her a dress and mailed it to her Mom. I told her ahead of time I was doing this, back when I first asked her to be one. For the ring bearers, I emailed the Moms a link to the little tux I wanted them to wear. They were only $39 and they had no problem with it.
Post # 5
I just gave my flower girl’s mom an idea about what I wanted, but I wasn’t too picky. We emailed each other back and forwarth different ideas, and ended up going online together when she was visiting to find it.
Post # 6
I went with my flower flowers girls and there mothers to go shopping. We all agreed on a dress to order. I am very fortunate that my cousins (flower girls moms) are the best.
Post # 7
My flower girls live out of state and I picked out the dresses myself. I bought them online and had one sent to me first to make sure I liked it. They had wanted to see the website I was ordering from but I just told them that I picked a dress out and got their sizes. I didn’t want them to see something else and start anything. They have them but didn’t make any comments so not sure if they like but as my Fiance said “It doesn’t matter if they like them, it matters if you like them”. Plus I payed for them so they really can’t say much.
Post # 8
I have a similar situation — our flower girls will be 4 and 2 1/2 by the time our wedding rolls around and both of them are my FH’s nieces. I am fairly close with both of their mothers though and when I asked them to be flower girls were both great and said “let us know when you find a dress for us to buy” so I’m not too worried about. Just trying to find something as inexpensive as possible since they’ll be so young!
Post # 9
How far in advance did you all buy the dresses? Our wedding is in March, and I thought we’d buy the dresses in January….does that seem okay?
Post # 10
I did mine in July for an October wedding. I got them right away in the mail. Some sites take longer. Make sure to check their return policy. Some sites I googled didn’t have very good ones and customers complained about getting their money back. Buying them online is tough because you can’t see them in person first.