- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I’m not quite ready to totally plan my wedding out (my dad just passed away), but I can’t help but start to think about it a bit more. FI and I concluded that it could be in Jackson Hole where the orginal wedding was planned, or our Emerald Lake Lodge idea in Canada (near Banff). Whatever we end up doing it won’t be a last minute type of thing, so some planning is needed.
Jackson Hole – 4 hour drive, familiar with area, nice lodging options, make a long weekend out of it, no elopement options, do it ourselves, could easily visit it on our anniversary
Emerald Lake Lodge – 18 hour erive, new place for us, nice elopement options, more time is required due to the drive
FI’s parents, being the traveling retired type (RV and passports), said they would come be our witnesses for our wedding wherever we may have it – even Canada! They were at the time the only excited ones, and since they are so mobile, we thought why not let them come. They vacationed in Banff just last year.
My mom on the other hand, she has never done a trip that wasn’t planned for her, and is not comfortable with driving herself around in a new place or booking her own lodging, super fearful of flying, etc. So if she came out to our wedding (which she just now expressed interest in to my shock and awe), I told her that I cannot be her personal tour guide. If she wanted a vacation, she’d have to come at a different time (she couldn’t afford two trips this summer). It sounded like she wanted to get both – a vacation and see us get married (not sure of her priority). So it’d have to be the wedding or a vacation that I plan/take with her (which I will happily do). She hasn’t decided yet, but we also don’t know where our wedding will be yet (I doubt she could get a passport ready in 1 month).
Do we extend the invite to no one, or to both his parents and my mom? I’m going to feel so guilty if she’s upset because she doesn’t know how to get from A to B by herself, then really ticked if I end up having to tote her around myself on my honeymoon. Then we already said FI’s parents could come. We could just say we’ll visit them later in the year as a consolation prize LOL.
FI’s parents and my parents have never met yet.
It does seem so odd to extend the invite to anyone in the first place, since tenchincally you don’t even need other people there at all to legally get married (photog can be a witness, etc), so it’s just selfish from the start to extend to anyone I think. You’re just asking them to spend a lot of money on your behalf when they don’t really have to. Weird.
I know only we can decide, but we need to decide fairly soon if we have any hope of booking a wedding (well lodging, photog and officiant really) before the cold weather gets here.