Parents: potty training help, please!!! About to lose it.

posted 2 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

How old is she? 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

How old is your daughter? Maybe she’s not ready yet? These things take time and she will eventually catch on, I promise. It is a difficult time but you both will get through it. One thing that helped both of my kids was watching me and their dad use the potty. (daughter with me, son with their dad). It helped them understand what was asked of them. 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

kortizi0:  How old is she? Not every child is ready for potty training at the same age.

Is she showing signs of readiness? You dont need to tick off all of them but if you start too early, you just prolong the process for you and her.

Physical signs

Is coordinated enough to walk, and even run, steadily.

Urinates a fair amount at one time.

Has regular, well-formed bowel movements at relatively predictable times.

Has “dry” periods of at least two hours or during naps, which shows that his bladder muscles are developed enough to hold urine.

Behavioral signs

Can sit down quietly in one position for two to five minutes.

Can pull her pants up and down.

Dislikes the feeling of wearing a wet or dirty diaper.

Shows interest in others’ bathroom habits (wants to watch you go to the bathroom or wear underwear).

Gives a physical or verbal sign when she’s having a bowel movement such as grunting, squatting, or telling you.

Demonstrates a desire for independence.

Takes pride in his accomplishments.

Isn’t resistant to learning to use the toilet.

Is in a generally cooperative stage, not a negative or contrary one.

Cognitive signs

Understands the physical signals that mean she has to go and can tell you before it happens or even hold it until she has time to get to the potty.

Can follow simple instructions, such as “go get the toy.”

Understands the value of putting things where they belong.

Has words for urine and stool.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

do you take her into the bathroom with you when you go? i’m not a parent, but the kids i know who potty trained early or quickly were kids that would see their parents and older siblings using the potty…monkey see, monkey do.

what about making a chart and filling it with stickers every time she uses the potty? once the chart is full you can give her a big reward- frozen yogurt, a new toy, whatever….

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Potty training is not something that’s going to happen over night. My nephew is almost 4, has been potty training for over a year and is just now having limited accidents.  She might not be ready yet.  That being said, I’d continue trying to teach her about it without totally pushing it and managing your expectations until she is more ready. 

Maybe you can try sitting her on the potty (with diaper on) when she needs to go, and getting her to used to going in her diaper while on the potty. I don’t know how feasible that is for you to execute.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

kortizi0:  Do not despair. It will happen. There are very few children who are still wearing diapers to kindergarten, even though some days we may all worry about that.

Keep it casual, reward success, ignore failures. If she seems to be getting stressed out about it, tell her that while you do want her to use the potty, you are going to back off for a while and ask her to tell you when she wants to try again.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

kortizi0:  Deep breath. It’s only been since Monday! Lol!! I was a stepmom so I actually have some real world experience. Give it time. AND very importantly don’t make it a bad experience like get mad at her if she poos her pants and whatever. She’s still very young, too, and she’s trying to learn a brand new thing. Just keep trying and it WILL come. I promise.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

kortizi0:  When my parents were potty training my sisters, they didn’t want to do a candy reward either, so they made a sticker board. Every time they pottied successfully, they got to pick out a sticker and put it on the board. After x number of stickers, they got a small treat of some sort – went out for an ice cream cone, got to pick a game to play, whathaveyou. I remember that working really quickly. The stickers and board were put up in the bathroom so it was an immediate reward and the child could easily see progress. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

With my first, I tried to force potty training at a young age.  It was a disaster.  With my second, I let it happen when she was ready.  My second potty trained earlier than my first.  My youngest is 6 and a half, and I can’t remember how old she was when she was trained.  that’s how little it matters in the long run!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

kortizi0:  Lol! I think my sisters got to pick out the stickers too. It was a big overblown deal to get them really excited about stickers and going potty – but it sure worked! I think Sis A was potty trained in a couple months (she was a little stinker) but Sis B was potty trained within a couple weeks. 

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