Post # 1
A family member is making our invitations as a gift to us… should we show our parents before we hand them out? I think we should as a nice thing to do but my FI thinks we should wait so it’s a surprise… Whose right?
Post # 3
Hmmm… that’s a hard one. I’ll be showing them to my mom throughout the whole design process cause I trust her judgement more than my own!
Post # 4
I showed my parents and my MIL and FIL before I got them printed. My brother, however, just got married this pas July and didn’t show my parents. I wish he had, because there was a mistake that would’ve been easily caught if he had showed them first…
Post # 5
I showed mine to my mom, mostly because I was soo excited I couldn’t keep them from her! I think it’s whatever you guys want!
Post # 6
We made ours ourselves and sent them out before anyone other than my younger brother (living with us at the time) saw them. I don’t think it’s a biggie to send them out without your parents seeing them – is it possible for you to hand deliver theirs?
Post # 7
we showed ours to our parents because we made them and we wanted lots of people to make sure they were right. i think it depends how involved your parents are and want to be in your planning process for if you’re going to show them before other people.
Post # 8
I think it could go either way… we didn’t show our parents ahead of time, but only because they both live out of state. My mom was there when we picked the stuff out though (we used an invitation DIY kit) so she knew what they would would like.
Post # 9
I would certainly at least run the wording by them first, even if you want the design to be a surprise… parents often seem to have *strong* opinions about invitation wording, and you definitely don’t want to find out too late that someone’s feelings are hurt!
Post # 10
Thanks for your opinions!
Wording is tricky because we don’t want the “Mr and Mrs Smith invite you to”. We want to be inviting guests, not our parents. But we might put “Together with their parents”… We might just do it before parents see so they can’t tell us what wording to use.
Post # 11
Fi and I are paying for the wedding, but we both wanted to honor our parents by putting their names on the invite (we knew they’d love that, too).
So, we are going with the format: Jane Doe, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Doe, etc… I know that’s not your question, but it might be an option for you!
Also – I don’t think you need to show your parents before it goes out to the printer – but, it might be nice to show them before anyone else’s is mailed.
Post # 12
We showed both our parents to get their opinion and to make sure we had every set of eyes possible looking for any mistakes (since our invitation lady was a nightmare to deal with and had terrible spelling and grammer!) Its a nice idea to keep it a surprise but if you want to run the wording by them first thats also thoughtful.