(Closed) Parents, step-parents, inlaws meeting for the first time

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yay!  Congrats on graduating!  I’m sure everyone will be on their best behavior.  They’re probably just as anxious and excited as you are.  I’d just have some good wine and yummy food and maybe a handful of things to discuss if there’s a lull in convo.  I’m sure there won’t be though.  We had been dating for 6 years before we managed to get our families together.  Just before his family got to the location, some of my family had a major civil war.  My immediate family wasn’t meant to be involved but by trying to stop it, it escalated and got ugly.  So I thought for SURE that it was all going to be horribly awkward and I just wanted to hide in a corner.  But, as soon as they got there everyone was on their A game.  Moral of the story- don’t worry about a thing 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I won’t be any help, but my SO and I have been together 7 years and we have never introduced our families to one another.  His younger brother is the only person from his family who has met mine.  My mother always acts ridiculous in public, so I worry too much about her making the family look bad.  My SOs mom hates his dad and step-mom, so that’s another thing we don’t want to deal with.  We are going to put off having them all meet until we either 1)buy a house and have a house warming party or 2)get engaged and have to have them meet before the wedding to ease the pressure on the wedding day/rehearsal.

I can totally understand you feeling nervous about it. Just drink a few glasses of wine and tell a sibling to be be on ‘watch parent and keep separated’ duty in case they aren’t getting along.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My parents and FIs parents met for the first time at our college graduation. This is the first time my mom and step mom had been around each other for an extended period of time. I thought it was going to be totally awkward but it wasnt at all. Sometimes the anticipation of something is worse than the actual thing itself!! Things will be fine. You and your parents and his parents are all adults and it will be okay. Yes there might be some uncomfortable moments or periods of silence, but if you just try to relax and let things go you will be fine!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1993

My advice….. stock LOTS of wine. When mine and FI’s parents met, we went through 6+ bottles of red (and the reason they stopped was because there was no wine left in the house!). FI wasn’t drinking as he was driving, I don’t like red wine that much, so you do the math. Neither of our parents would normally drink more than a bottle between the 2 of them, even on a special occasion. They were just as nervous as us!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My fiance and I tried to keep our families from meeting, but fate intervened…and our parents met for the first time at the CONVINIENCE STORE…and no we don’t live in the same city, the store is half hour from our parents so they don’t go to that store…

While fiance and I took my parents there to get dishes, fiance’s parents walked in!  Fiance had come back with the sale’s clerk (or so I thought) and nervously walked up to me and told me to introduce them.  My jaw must have dropped to the floor when I saw them there! Talk about awkward first moment!

Poor fiance’s mom was a wreck, she was so nervous! Luckily there were things to occupy them and they just had small talks.  I think it helped that they had places to go and things to do.  It could have been awkward if we sat them down in a room and get them to talk.  I think a large gatering with several distractions should help minimize the awkward silent. 

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