(Closed) Parents threatening to have the talk with him!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012


Did you tell them if they don’t back off they risk ending up with no wedding at all? There is nothing -NOTHING – that sets off a guys nerves like being pressured. Not to mention, confronting him is only going to put him on the defensive… the last place you want him to be with your family!!

Post # 4
1278 posts
Bumble bee

I know your frustration, when my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I were leaving my parent’s house after Thanksgiving, my Dad yelled over everyone “At Christmas we are going to need to talk about thing before you get engaged to red dino”.  I still haven’t talked to my parents after that, but I’m going home this weekend (by myself) for a few hours and I plan on telling them to knock it off.  With my boyfriend, any pressure makes him back off more.  

Perhaps try telling your parents that them putting the pressure on him (for an already intense thing to do) will just cause him to be more stressed and put it off even more.

Best of luck to you, my “get my parents off my SO’s back comrade”


Post # 6
1903 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My parents are always asking when the engagement will be. They have your best interests at heart, they don’t want to see you in this awkward waiting place for much longer. I would suggest to them to take out any concerns with you, as you feel that if they pressured him, it would only delay things.

Tell them that you know they mean well, but things are getting there naturally 🙂

Post # 7
658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Maybe they should have that convo without you being involved. They have a good reason to have this conversation…

Post # 8
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012


I’m sorry but I strongly disagree. As a gal with a big brother and two very close guy friends – I can tell you that from the guys point of view, getting cornerned in to a marriage conversation with your girlfriend’s parents will NOT be well received. It feels like pressure, and it can also feel like getting guilted or ganged up on. None of these things are conducive to the desired outcome.

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