Parents visiting….

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Oh my goodness

 

1) They weren’t happy–and you obvously felt their complaints were rude

2) they solved the problem.

 

Your precious house was not comfortable to them.  They don’t want to be close to your bedroom and they needed more outlets.  They solved the problem rather than antagonizing you.

I don’t see the problem.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Industrial/Modern

I’m with searock. They solved the problem and now you don’t have to hear them complain. It’s a win win in my opinion! 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Count your lucky stars that they’ll get out of your hair at night and move on : )

Our house is 850 sq ft and I’m always psyched when visitors would rather stay at a hotel. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would rather they slept at a hotel if that’s how they feel. Sometimes people just have a hard time sleeping at someone else’s house. A hotel offers a couple a chance to escape and have some privacy and maybe they weren’t feeling that when they slept there. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

MrsD41503:  My in laws built this beautiful like 6 bedroom, 3 bathroom home a few years ago. Beautiful everything in there. My MIL, honestly, is a hoarder and keeps it dirty, BUT when she knows guests are coming she will change bedding, super clean, etc.

However, when FIL’s family comes from out of state, they still chose to stay at FIL’s sister’s 2 bedroom, 2 bathroom home. Why? Because they just want to, and it’s more fun there. MIL is always offended and bitches and complains, but yet hates all of them anyway, so why if she hates them does she want them staying with her?

Anyway, my point is, if they don’t like your house why would you want them there? Let them be comfortable in a hotel if that’s what they choose. That’s where I’d prefer they’d be if it were me. More room for you AND less complaining 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

MrsD41503:  I’m sorry they were so rude and gossipy.

The good news is they want to see you pretty badly, and they are willing to pay for a hotel. I have a friend who has to pay for her rich parents to stay in a hotel because they don’t feel ” comfortable” at her house. 

Enjoy the space this will give you during their visit and the fact that you won’t be able to hear them complain 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

DH’s parents go back and forth between staying at ours and staying in a nearby hotel. I know they don’t get the best sleep when they use our guestroom, so I would prefer for them to do what makes them the most comfortable.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I’d always opt to stay at a hotel rather than someone’s house if I’m visiting. It gives everyone their privacy and personal space, and you still can spend as many waking hours as you’d like with eachother. Plus, they don’t have to be inconvenienced by having to tend to an overnight guest.

If they can afford it, it sounds like the best solution for everyone!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I feel like you’re getting some very direct and ride responses here. What I think, it’s good that they’re staying at a hotel if they were uncomfortable at your house. But, it still really sucks that they were rude and negative about something you love and worked hard on and worked hard to get in the first place! I know when my family comes over I clean and organize like crazy and out out flowers and try to make sure everything is perfect, and I would be really upset if that was met with complaints! 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it’s just fine- I would not be upset at all!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Where they rude for what they said about yoru house after you hosted them (likely for free)?  Oh heck yes!

Would I be very happy that they were staying in a hotle in your place?  Yep.  You don’t have to deal with them complaining again about staying there.

For the record, we visited some of DH’s family a year ago.  We stayed in a two bedroom one bath house with them (couple) and 3 dogs.  We are NEVER doing that agian.  While I kept my comments to DH, four adults in a two bedroom house was too much.  I also am an intervert, and his aunt meaning well asked me every five minutes if I needed anything.  What I needed was an hour on my own to read my book and recharge.  We need a hotel when we visit from now on just to give me enough space not to ger surly (and I was by the end of that vacation.) 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We live quite close to both sets of parents so there is no real need for them to stay with us. Whenever my PILs go to visit my SIL they usually stay in a hotel (I think they don’t like to impose/it’s a treat for them) but this time they are staying with my SIL and her BF because the hotel they usually stay in is booked up. My MIL is going on about not wanting to…not wanting to impose but it could be something else with her.

I think if they’ve found a hotel it will be better for you, now you wont be on edge. Question will be…will they still be critical even though they aren’t staying.

Hope the visit goes well.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

lolot:  <— what she said. i would be sooooooo beyond thrilled if this were my “problem!!”

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We have a tiny cabin. My stepmom used to live here when I was growing up but moved away years ago. Even though it was home to her, she stayed in a hotel when she came for a visit. It was easier for both of us. She had her personal space and I had time to clean up a little after she left so I could prepare for her visit the next day.

DH’s parents are planning a visit and are against staying in a hotel. 🙁 Boo.

I think what’s shitty about your situation is your step parent’s attitude. Good golly that is so rude.

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