Post # 1
I love my reception venue. It’s a mansion that is dedicated to weddings and receptions and it is lovely. The reception will take place outside where there is a courtyard/patio for the cocktail hour, and a large air conditioned tent where the dinner and dancing will take place.
Just outside the tent entrance is the bar. In between the tent and patio is a large yard with a decorative pool in the middle.
There are a few children who could potentially come to the reception – they willl range from age 1 to 6. My question is – will parents be worried about their kids falling in the open pool? I felt a little concerned, but the fact is that most of the evening is spent in the tent and away from the pool. I would love to have some of these kids at the reception.
So, should I warn parents that there is a pool? By phone or on the actual invitation? And how would I word it? I don’t want it to seem like I don’t want kids at the reception, or make it sound like there is poolside dancing, but I don’t want parents to be uncomfortable either.
My friend who is mother of the ring bearer and flower girl already told me that pool or not, they are having a babysitter take them home after the ceremony because she wants to enjoy the night out.
Post # 3
I’m torn. Part of me thinks, no big deal, parents should be watching their children at all times so nothing should happen. But I know in my family the kids get passed around a lot. And if you don’t know exactly where your little one is, it’s ok because he’s just getting snuggled by a cousin or an auntie. So I worry that kids will sort of get passed around a bit and everybody thinks the baby is with someone else… but maybe he wandered off to play in the pool.
Post # 4
If there are only a few children invited, I would let the parents know about the pool by phone soon after the invitations went out. It may or may not affect their decision to attend, or to bring the children.
Parents shouldn’t let their children run around unsupervised at a wedding reception anyhow, but they definitely need to know that one of them is responsible at all times to keep the children in sight where there is a pool.
Post # 5
I don’t think you need to go out of your way to warn them. It’s the parents responsibility to make sure that their children are safe. If they let their kids wander off, its not going to be your fault.
Post # 6
if your dance floor or tent was bordering the pool, i would warn them. you shouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 7
I think its fair to warn them but probably just casually like through a mass email to those with kids or through personal emails. They may not notice that there is a pool around and if they let a child run off it could be a bad situation. No it wouldn’t be your fault if something happened, but would you want something like that to happen on your wedding day or to someone you love?
I agree that its the parents responsibility to keep their parents safe, but at a wedding, my first thought isn’t going to be, “Hey maybe I should keep my kid really close because there is a pool over there”.
As a parent I think you do keep an eye on your kids, but when there is an extra danger around (pool, fire pit, busy road, etc) then you take extra care to ensure they are safe.
Post # 8
I would personally appreciate a phone call prior to the reception if I was a guest attending your wedding with children. Despite not wanting to make a fuss over it, you should really address this issue. I don’t think it’s neccessary to place it in your invites, but a quick call or email would suffice to get your point accross.
You could say something like, “Although our wedding reception is an all ages event, we feel it is important to mention that extra care will need to be taken by those of you bringing small children as there is an open pool at our venue. We apologize for any inconvenience that this may cause and we look forward to seeing you all soon.”
Something short and simple will do. If you don’t give a pre-warning, than unfortunately if some terrible accident (god forbid) were to happen you may be held liable. It’s a nice gesture to show your guests that you care about their children as well. At least if you give a warning ahead of time you won’t have guests leaving early because they are tired of rounding up their little ones.
Post # 9
Its not necessary to tell them about the pool, I don’t think it will make or break any parents decision to come, so personally I wouldn’t add the task to your plate 🙂
Post # 11
Hmm, I never even thought about this but my reception venue has a pool also and yep, the dance floor is right beside it. I think I will do what the previous posters suggest and just do a casual mention via email or phone call – but I don’t think that the warning is mandatory. thank you for the post!
Post # 12
I agree with Mrs. Peters to Be – Although it is ultimately the responsibility of the parents to supervise their own children, I think it would be a nice to give families a courtesty call/e-mail/letter. Even though you want children to attend, parents may decide that they’d prefer to keep their children at home with a sitter if they plan to “party/mingle” a lot. Just something to consider, as it would be horrifying if something devastating happened on your special day.
Post # 13
I think a mass e-mail or an additional note in their invites would be ideal. It is the parents job to make sure that their children are being safe and looked after, but how awful would you feel if a child found their way to the pool and something happened? I think that you should just let them know informally.
Post # 14
i always tend to err on the side of caution – a phone call to people who may be bringing kids isn’t going to be a huge deal or take a lot of time, and im sure they would appreciate knowing ahead of time – i would tell them
Post # 16
I would want a heads up. If I were a guest and didn’t know about it before hand, I might not be so careful with a slightly older child. Parents of younger toddlers should be right with them anyway, but unfortunately you can’t always predict how close an eye parents will keep. I wouldn’t assume they’ll notice it on their own, and sending an email to them, even if it’s a mass email and you bcc everyone, will really cover you in case something happens.
I know at my SIL/BIL’s wedding, there was a fountain and there were kids playing outside without parents. The reception was inside, but kids as young as 4 were outside playing. There were older kids 10-13 out there as well, but they weren’t responsible for the younger ones, they were just playing together.