(Closed) Parents/FILs Not Approving of Venue Choice?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think my FMIL is slightly annoyed that we wanted to do the reception somewhere other than the basement of the church we’re getting married in or said town’s local community center.  She doesn’t want to travel further than down the street, even though my family (including my parents) is traveling across the state.  And it’s not look we didn’t consider those places.  We decided that the basement was too small and cramped for 100 people to be comfortable and the community center was already booked for that date.  We would have to rush to put up decorations and take them down in like a 3 hour time span.  Too much hassle and stress to have to it there.

So, my FI found a lovely Bed & Breakfast 15 minutes away and we went with that instead.  I don’t regret our choice even if other people give me grief for it.

My advice is stick to your guns, especially if your the one paying for it. (As is the case with me and my guy.)

Post # 5
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1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I would tell her the next time wedding plans are brought up. Mention that you and FI found a really great place that is within your budget and will be just large enough for your 175ish people wedding.

that way you are not asking her opinion you are sharing good news! (or have your FI do it!)

Post # 6
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307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We have a similar situation. We asked both of our mothers to come see the venue where we’re having our ceremony and reception. His mom was clearly annoyed and was just being flat our rude to me, my mom, and the venue’s staff member who was with us. I’m not exactly sure what her problem was, but FI thinks a large part of it was that we were not having our wedding in a church. FI’s mom is religious, but neither of us are.

For us, this was a pretty big decision. I can give a little on a lot of other things (especially since FI’s parents are contributing), but neither of us want to get married in a church. It’s just not right for us.

Anyway…I’ll agree with Foolhardy – stand your ground on this one, especially since you and your parents are paying for it.

Post # 7
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What if you get a reverend or minister to officiate at your location? Would that be a good way to compromise? That is how we compromised our situation.

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