- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So I got married in September and haven’t posted since. However, I have gotten a few requests for details about getting married in Paris (which is what we did) and getting a JCrew dress (which is also what I did). It’s a Monday night, the husband is at work, and I’ve had, like, half a bottle of wine, so hopefully this is coherent. If not, I’m willing to answer follow-up questions.
I live near the JCrew in Seattle that has the bridal collection to try on, so I tried on a number of their dresses. Getting a JCrew dress was partly motivated by wanting an inexpensive dress, partly because I like the brand. I ended up with their Bettina dress. Here’s a private message review I gave of the dresses I gave someone who asked me last summer:
“I have tried on both the Arabelle and the Bettina. The silk chiffon fabric on the Arabelle (and the other silk chiffon JCrew dresses I tried) seemed too…bunchy, I guess. I seem to remember it having some structure on the inside, though, which was a plus. With alterations it probably would have been fine. Of course, I was trying on samples that were..not in the best condition. Ultimately the style wasn’t really what I was looking for.
The Bettina is really pretty and, I think, different from a lot of dresses I’ve seen. The good: the weight of the fabric is very nice, there are two layers underneath the skirt, the buttons down the back are pretty, the unique style, it has a short train which I’m having French bustled.
The keyhole in the front doesn’t open quite as wide as it seems to in the photo on the JCrew website, and I’m probably around the same cup size as the model. It could probably be opened further with alterations, but then finding a bra would be really impossible (see below). [note: I had my seamstress sew a little stitch to hold it closed]
I don’t think I’ll be wearing a belt or a sash, but I think it works with Bettina since there is a defined waistline. Some of the other JCrew dresses just have a seam at the waist, which looks a little too plain to me on its own. The Bettina could easily be dressed up with a sash though, as long as it was as wide or wider than the existing waistline.
The other nice thing is that, since I have other JCrew clothes, I pretty much knew what size to order and alterations were relatively simple (just a hem, the bustle, and taking it in a little around the waist – without nipping it in there it looked very boxy, which usually isn’t a problem for me).
The not-so-good: the tricotine fabric is UNFORGIVING. I’ll be wearing some hardcore full body Spanx underneath to smooth things out. And watching what I eat for the next month. Ugh.
Also, the sides come down pretty low and the neckline is unusual, so it was a little tricky to find a bra that worked.” (I ended up with one from Victoria’s Secret that had no back, but some weird sticky flaps on the sides. It worked fine.)
Other styling notes: the shoes were $12 gold flats from H&M, the jewelry was some pretty stuff I found at Nordstrom. I did my own hair and makeup (got hooked up at the Laura Mercier counter; not as scary as it seemed).
We got married at the garden of the Musee Rodin, but didn’t reserve the whole garden, like some people do (through wedding planners, for a lot of money, not that there’s anything wrong with that). I emailed the museum’s event coordinator in advance (the general event reservation email was on their website), and she told me that we would just have to pay the entrance fee and she would make sure security wouldn’t bother us. When we actually arrived in Paris, we found that they were doing MASSIVE construction in the garden in advance of a big special event. Oh, how I wish I had known that beforehand. But in the end, our photographer (One and Only Paris) knew how to shoot the photos without the ugly construction background, and I don’t even remember hearing the construction sounds during the ceremony. I guess they do this event every September, so if that’s your plan, be aware. Because we didn’t “privatize” the garden, in a couple of the photos, there are some tourists taking pictures of us in the background, but who cares, really? I included a photo, as an example.
Post wedding (the party included my dad, who married us (for free!), my mom, and one of our friends), and after the photos were done, we all went to dinner at Le Closerie des Lilas, then had macarons and champagne in front of Notre Dame. It was kind of perfect.
Hope this helps someone. As I mentioned, I am more than happy to answer questions, or offer suggestions based on my experience.