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silly me.. i never thought of cocktail hour as requiring cocktails / liquor. i thought it was basically socializing time for the guests while the official photos got taken, etc. i think tidbits are a good idea in case your guests get peckish waiting for dinner (in some receptions, it can take a while for the 1st course to be served especially if you're doing speeches, dances, etc at the beginning).
if your family is up in arms about it, would you be ok w/ a cash bar?
If you aren't big drinkers and you can't afford it, then feel free to skip the alcohol. Most people do know how to and can enjoy themselves without it. If they can't, then it would seem they are attending for the wrong reasons if they are calling you selfish because you honestly can't afford it. A proper host/ess never serves what they can't afford and that includes making guests pay for their own food/drinks, which reflects badly on the host. The people who love you and want to celebrate with you will do and won't care that there isn't any alcohol. But there is no reason to put yourselves deep in debt to serve it in order to make those selfish people happy.
As far as the term "cocktail hour" implying alcohol, I have never once assumed that, nor have I met anyone else who thinks it either. Guess it depends on the crowd.
@<span style="font-family: tahoma, verdana; font-size: 13px; font-style: italic;">oreomaximus - <span style="font-family: tahoma, verdana; font-size: 13px;">Have you already finalized your venue? If not, there are lots of places in Houston that will let you provide your own alcohol. PM me and I can suggest a few.
<span style="font-family: tahoma, verdana; font-size: 13px;">Providing alcohol to your guests isn't a requirement. If you can't afford it, then don't serve it.
<span style="font-family: tahoma, verdana; font-size: 13px;">Cocktail hour is to give the guests something to munch on and drink while the bride and groom get formal pictures taken (family photos, wedding party photos, etc).
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Okay bees...the venue where we are having our reception does not allow us to bring in our own alcohol. Instead they would prefer that you pay $3500.00 for beer, wine and champagne (keep in mind am I am only having 200 guests). So it took FI and I all of .000001 seconds to say, in the words of Whitney Houston, "Hell, to the naw." We can't aford it and further more, it's just not that important. So we have decided to forgoe alcoholic beverages since we're not big drinkers anyway (and since we can't afford it). However, I have been hearing the term, "cocktail hour" being thrown around a lot lately as if its a requirement and I was just wondering who wrote the chapter in "official wedding etiquette" that says that providing alcohol to your guests is required. I personally don't see the need to open ourselves up for "accidents waiting to happen" -- such as DWI's, DUI's, people acting "foolish" due to intoxication, etc, etc. I want people to come and have a healthy and safe experience at our wedding and most importantly -- to remember it! Perhaps if the venue didn't blatantly "rape you" and charged a reasonable amount we would consider it but why would I go broke to follow "tradition" or stick to what is apparently "the norm?" But where I am going with this is that apparently (and I didn't realize this before) half of our families are drunks and are in a virtual unheaval about us not serving alcohol. Are you serious? What I told them was, "You want alcohol? Sure we can have alcohol. Just give me $3500." Then they basically tell me that I'm neing unreasonable and selfish -- as if -- and I just walk away but still, it just urks me that people can so freely tie a stigma to your wedding..."What? Theres not going to be any alcohol? OMG!!"
Oh Please.
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