Post # 1
trying this post again but with a different title to see if i can get more advice….
if you want some background you can find it HERE….
short version: FH and I were thinking of doin a coed bachelor / bachelorette that would be just our closest friends (so not that many people) and we would rent a house for the weekend and do girls vs guys games and the like….
Groomsmen wants to take him out on a different night for a bachelor night of fun….
FH is so laid-back, he doesnt care if we do one coed plus separate or just separate nights and no coed……
my question: should i scratch the coed idea altogether?? if I really want the coed party, should we offer to pay for a girls/guys weekend and then have separate bachelorette and bachelor nights that the BMs and GMs host?? is that overkill though?? what do yous think??
thanks hive!! 🙂
Post # 4
Both…as long as your parties are cool w it.
You may appreciate the tradition later on and who doesn’t love parties.
Post # 5
This is exactly what we want to do..we just aren’t sure if we are going to do it because of costs. What we are thinking is instead of renting a place to have the coed, just to have it at our local park or our house where the fees (if any) are minimal. We are going to cover the cost and look at it as more of a prewedding party and to show our appreciation for our bridal party. Then the bachelorette/bachelor parties will be on the bridal party.
Post # 6
I think that sounds like a great idea. A weekend with the group together, but with some separate activities. Perfect!
Post # 7
I think it would be fun to do all three. Or if you don’t want a just girls one, let him have the just guys… but make them to the co-ed as well. I think you should plan the co-ed a few weeks/months beforehand though so it won’t be overkill. I’m used to going on bachelorette weekends a month or so before the wedding. None of my friends who were brides wanted to do it the week/night of. So it’s definitely something that would work out 🙂
Post # 8
@mannellal: ur repsonse actually made me think of an idea…..i haven’t really decided if i want to do an actual rehearsal dinner yet because the wedding is taking place on our friend’s property….but maybe we could do a quick rehearsal and then the coed party right after that?? is that a bad idea?? i mean, we’d be covering the cost of the rehearsal dinner anyways if we do it….and the ceremony isn’t starting until 7pm the next day…..roughly it could be like this: Friday July8th – get together with bridal party and run through the ceremony quickly – then start the coed party at either my friends house or our house….everyone could stay over or not if they don’t want to (they all live in the same town so wouldn’t have a long drive otherwise) and then morning of, everyone is together and can help set up the reception and ceremony areas, get ready, and then the ceremony starts at 7pm…..
does that sound feasible?? we wouldn’t serve hard liquor at the party so that way, no one gets trashed for the big day….lol
what do yous think??
Post # 9
@kperry3: haha, i just posted asking what if i combined the coed party with the rehearsal the night before….. i guess maybe its a bad idea then??
Post # 10
@MamaHusky3: It depends on your group of friends. I know my friends would never miss a chance to hang out and party so I don’t think it is over done and I think that combining it could be great if you have the right family/friends.
Since you aren’t having alcohol, no one would be hungover just make sure you allow time for sleep 🙂
Post # 11
MamaHusky3 I love the idea of separate bachlor/bachlorette parties and then a coed party the night before. Our friend’s did that and it just added to the whole weekend. It will give people a chance to hangout if they haven’t seen each other in a long time and break the ice for people meeting for the first time.