Partner might not be present for the birth. Anyone else in a similar situation?

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

sharontobemarried:  Oh no sweetie!  I wish I could offer some words of advice from experience, but I just wanted to give you a hug and let you know that my fingers are crossed that your little one comes when your husband is home!

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

🙁 I’m sorry you are facing this. Hopefully baby will cooperate and come during that time that your husband will be around! I’m sending positive vibes 🙂

I don’t have any experience with this kind of situation (no children), but I have a few suggestions if it turns out he won’t be able to be physically present. See if your husband can skype you at any point during your labor, and have your mother be in charge of keeping him updated when you are focusing/too busy to talk to him lol. You can talk to him directly and he can offer support and encouragement. Also, your mom should film the birth as you are comfortable with so your husband can watch (either during the skype session or later), and the two of you could watch it later and connect.

Good luck! 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

If I were in your situation, I might ask my OB if they were comfortable inducing me while my husband was in town. It will take away a lot of your anxiety and guarantee that he is there for the birth…

Post # 5
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Helper bee

My fist was 11 days late. But, at 38 weeks, my OB said he can induce me anytime I wanted. I chose not to, and I know it’s not ideal, but if it meant my husband would be there or not, I’d have done it.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

sharontobemarried:  This may happen to me as well. My husband is a doctor, he works 7 nights on, and then he gets 7 days off. He gets no vacation time or sick days. I’m pretty much convinced that I’m going to go into labor during the week he is working. It wont be easy for him to get coverage on such short notice either. I don’t really have advice, just wanted to let you know that you’re not the only one, and it the idea of his first kid being born without him SUCKS.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

sharontobemarried:  I would not typically suggest a medically unnecessary intervention, but in this case it may be worthwhile to discuss the pros and cons of induction with your care provider.  Certainly less than 41 weeks it will put you at an increased risk of cesearean section but I think at least a conversation to understand the risks and benefits is a good idea.  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would totally speak to my doctor about the pros and cons of inducing labor on the dates my DH would be there! If it was a medically sound decision then you would ensure his presence and he would get to support you, be with you AND meet his child too!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Do you know how long they let you go past your due date before inducing? In France it’s not many days…

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