- 5 years ago
my partner and I cannot seem to find a happy middle ground on how many times her parents, brothers,sister should come around, we are both in our early 30s, i don’t come from a very close family background. Her dad rings on Average 2 to 3 times a day 365 days a year without fail. They visit for example this week 4 out of the possible 7 days. it’s not that I don’t like her folks they are nice but one of my main issues is that they don’t drive, so whilst they make there way to my house on public transport they are generally still there when i get back from work to which I then have to drive them home as my girlfriend does not drive. It’s not that far but sometimes I just want to come home play with the kids and generally relax and not have to go out. Most of the time they just turn up without warning, her brother has on a lot of occasions turned up early mornings about 7/8 cause he’s dropped his wife of to work which can be quite stressful in the mornings. I have told my girlfriend that up would prefer if they would ring and possibly ask her mom and dad to think about the return journey, in fairness sometimes quite bluntly, her eply is generally fxxk you in will never ask you to give them a lift again your a sad lonely prxxk just cause your family don’t give a sxxt about each other etc i see my dad and his wife every Sunday which sometimes can be quite overpowering when we have things to do, but I will on those occasions ring him tell him we are busy and he’s cool with that. I know family values are important, we have 2 children and I love them dearly and I love my family, but I feel suffocated, how unreasonable am I being, Opinions, views are greatly welcomed please respond/help.