- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
Guess what – it’s wedding season! And boy do I know it.
I have several friends getting married this year (yay!) but I have to say… I’m getting worn out and so is my wallet.
I’ll get right to the point so you can avoid reading the rant. Here’s my big questions for other wedding guests: do you ever feel that all these traditional parties (engagement party/shower, wedding/bridal shower, bachellorette) are balooning into huge events that are just too much?
For example, if a couple is already “settled down” with a nice house, nice things, etc., should they really ask their friends and family to buy them all new things? To fly across the country for a destination bachelorette and then fly again for a destiantion wedding?! If I was to be totally honest with my friends, I can’t really afford to go to any of these things – I can’t buy a luxury item off of a registry, pay to stay in a five star hotel for three nights, etc. etc. but I do want to be there, and I do want to give a wedding gift (and still pay my rent!)
What do I say? “Sorry, the events you’re planning are too extravagant and I can’t afford to go. Have a nice wedding.”
My SO and I have been left shaking our heads as the expectations our friends are piling up on us this season. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely want to celebrate my friends’ special days, but I don’t want to attend four different parties for each person’s wedding! And everyone seems to think that it’s imperative that we attend ALL events. Sigh.
I know how special it is to get married, and I don’t want to deflate their excitement. I just know that when I finally have a wedding, it will be just that – a wedding. Where my friends and family can come have a nice meal and laugh, dance and drink the night away 🙂 no trust fund required!