Post # 1
My fiance and I are having a tough time finding “the” venue. We are looking for rustic, outdoor cocktail/lawn games, gorgeous, byob, etc, etc. On top of finding a unique wedding venue we are planning a NJ wedding from Texas.
Anyways we found a place that fits almost all of our criteria and is close to home 🙂
Gorgeous gardens, log cabin lodge with kitchen and real bathrooms, rental $1200 includes all tables and chairs plus use of gardens and grass area (perfect for lawn games). BYOB. Can use their caterer which has an awesome buffet for $45/person or use another one if prefered.
Available Sunday July 3rd!!!!
Music must end at 9pm, cleanup and everyone out by 10pm.
Would we have to start super early?!
HELP!!!! Not sure what to do. My fiance and I are not big drinkers or partiers (but we did just go to a wedding last weekend and had a blast dancing the night away!!). Since it is a Sunday and a holiday weekend maybe this would be a plus. We could arrange an afterparty at the hotel that we are blocking nearby so the party can continue. But when would be have to start. I dont want the night to seem to short so we would have to do cocktails at like 4pm and then the reception at 5pm. So then the wedding ceremony is at 3pm or earlier. Is that too early? I need some outside opinions… fiance and I keep going in circles about the plus and negatives, please help!!!! Thanks!!
Post # 3
9pm sounds ok to me if you can arrange an after party. You could even skip the drinking/dancing part of the night if you wanted – cut the cake etc about 8.45 then tell everyone you’ll see them at the after party for dancing 🙂 Then you aren’t interrupting the party as much. There were a few older guests at our wedding (and parents of young children) who would have been ready to leave by 9pm anyway.
I’d be more worried about “clean up by 10pm” – does that mean you and/or your guests are going to have to clean up??? That sounds like a bigger downer to me!!!
Post # 4
If you want lawn games, isn’t that more of a daytime/afternoon activity anyway? I think an earlier start time sounds perfect. An afterparty would be nice if you want to keep it going, but I dont think its neccessary.
Post # 5
For most people 9p won’t be too early. People driving home, with kids, older family members, etc won’t care that it ends at 9 and frankly might be thankful that they don’t have to worry about missing any fun or seeming rude by leaving “early”.
Yes, some people will just be getting going by 9pm, but those people will also be happy with a designated “after party”. Have a sign or something else that lets people know where they can go post reception to further enjoy the party.
Post # 6
I think 9pm end time sounds perfect, and if you want to do the after party, by all means, do it. FH & I aren’t super big partiers, and 4th of July is a big day at our house, we’d probably skip the after party and head home.
Post # 7
I think that fact that your wedding is going to be on a Sunday makes a 9pm end time perfectly fine.
Post # 8
what time is the reception going to start? in my crowd 9pm is a bit early.. but we dont start receptions till about 6 or 7
Post # 9
Honestly, I think earlier weddings and receptions are fine. There seems to be a huge push for evening events now, but for lawn games and outdoor fun, I think an afternoon is actually ideal for your event. You could start at about 3:00 and it would be perfect!
Post # 10
Update for clarification….
We will NOT be cleaning up!! Whomever we hire as a caterer will be incharge of that. I will make sure that is in their contract. Depending on what we do for table decorations (I am thinking simple long burlap runners, a few mason jars with flowers, etc) I will have someone in charge of sweeping those off tables into a big box and into a car but everything else should be pretty easy. We dont have to move tables or chairs, just clear tables, make sure trash is in the bin, etc.
Glad to hear that 9pm doesnt seem too weird to you guys, or that guests would be offended!!
Thinking more and more about this as a positive!!
1pm First look
1:30pm Joined by wedding party (and parents) for photos
2:30pm back inside seperate to rebeautify and relax
3pm wedding ceremony
4pm start of cocktail hour (guests will have to drive about 15 min from chapel to gardens) we will take a few photos at the gardens and then join guests
5pm seat guests
6:30pm first dance (want to delay this because I will be a two dress bride…. required because of the type of crazy first dance we are doing :)!!! ) Then walk around and mingle with each table
7:30 Cut the cake
9pm sparklers exit. we will probably set something up unofficially for the after party for everyone to go to at the bar of the hotel with our hotel block…. and decide that night if we want to make an apperance)
Post # 11
Just spoke with my sister (and MOH) who has been to many many more weddings than we have and she seems to think that guests will be offended that we are ending the party so early! I think people will be okay with whatever we present them with but maybe she has a point.
UGH! Maybe I need to keep looking….
Post # 12
Our reception will end at 8:30 (2 pm church ceremony) if that makes you feel any better.
Post # 13
I don’t think it is too early at all – your guests will be at the wedding from (at least) 245 in the afternoon to after 9 at night! That is a long time. I think that having an option of an after party is a nice option for those who want to continue to party. People who think that 9 pm is too early may not appreciate how early your party is going to begin!
Post # 14
I think 9pm on a Sunday is fine.
My wedding is a Sunday and it’s ending at 10pm, and some people expressed that they won’t be able to stay until it’s all over, because it being on a Sunday.
If it were a Saturday, I may feel differently. But I think you’re good on this one!! =0)
Good luck with the venue hunt!
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2010 - Parents' backyard
We are gonna end by 9PM, on a Saturday to boot. I think it’s fine. Especially if you are not the party type. We are only having 50 people at our wedding and I think more than half will want to go home after the cake is cut- no dancing, drinking, after party, whatever. If anyone wants to stick around we will be having lawn games and maybe going to the neighborhood bar since our wedding is in my parent’s backyard!
Since my wedding is also ending at 9 PM, I never really “got” that culture of staying out all night for a wedding. Damnit I like to be in bed by 11!