Passed over for a (teaching) job– how should I feel?

posted 1 week ago in Career
Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Also I was once in a group interview where one of the other people was someone who grew up in the school, and who subbed for the district because she still lived at home.  She also had her Master’s.  I know she felt like she was a shoe-in.  She didn’t get the job.  It just goes to show nothing is guaranteed.

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
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julies1949 :  Obviously that’s what I meant, and I’m sure OP knew exactly what I was talking about. I’m well aware of teacher contracts and how they are negotiated, as well as what school districts are required and not required to do. Must be in the ESL teacher in me – always trying to put things into “student-friendly” terms! 

Post # 18
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Blushing bee

Of course you’re allowed to feel that way. I think anyone else would feel the same way! It sucks that you have been subbing there and know the principal, but they went with someone else. I’m a teacher and I totally understand not wanting to go back. I’m sorry for that.

Post # 19
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Honey Beekeeper
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annb9 :  I would think accuracy would be “student friendly”. Instead of giving them anti- union sentiment (however unwittingly) you could make sure they not only learned English but also the way workers are treated.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
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julies1949 :  Actually, I view “union rules” as a positive thing – as in, the power of unions to at least somewhat dictate how their teachers are treated and compensated. Rules, at least in a school environment, are there to protect everyone – thus, union “rules” are intended to protect workers.

Agree to disagre over semantics; really not the point of my post. Neither is debating the definition of “student-friendly” with someone who does not teach newly-arrived immigrants on a daily basis.

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper

justwondering2015 :  It sucks to not get a job you wanted. It is fine to feel disappointed. And it is great to think you are a perfect fit for a job. But that doesn’t mean someone else isn’t also a perfect or even better fit.

I just put on a new hire at work. I know a colleague who has been acting in the position for 6 months and interviewed for the job is going to be pissed they didn’t get it. But another applicant was just better. There was zero wrong with my colleagues application and it really was that this other applicant was just a bit better. At the end of the day I don’t make employment decisions based on who I know, how long they have been with a company etc. I make them based on who is going to serve our business and therefore our clients/customers the best. Because that is what matters.

So in your case they decided that this other applicant is what is best for the school and it’s students. That is not a slight against you, it just means that this one person was a better choice based on all the information presented to them (application, qualifications, interview, references).

 

 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
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I am also going through the interview process. It’s so easy to get your hopes up, but for every interview, you have to keep your hopes checked and reasonable. When there are multiple candidates vying for one position, there is bound to be plenty of disappointment. I interviewed earlier this week and while I’m crossing my fingers, I’m also able to envision receiving a “no.” Any interview experience is good. And if it is a no, I am able to comfort myself by understanding it wasn’t a position I was destined to have for whatever reason. Just keep at it! Going into teaching, you know jobs are going to be hard to come by, but just keep pressing on.

My husband applied for 50+ jobs and only received one yes. But that is all you need.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Aww sorry bee, that sucks. Something similar happened to my husband. It was the school where he student taught and was a substitite frequently, and everyone there loved him. When he interviewed for a full-time position at the school everyone thought he would get it, but they totally blindsighted him and hired someone who was fresh out of school and had never taught there before. He was absolutely devastated and took it very personally. We still don’t know why they didn’t hire him, they never gave him a direct answer and became very cold towards him. Anyway, he ended up finding a job somewhere else and has been there for a few years now. All I can say is, it happens, try not to focus on the negatives and just try to be the best you can be and learn from it.

Post # 24
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Helper bee

Disappointment is part of life. We have all felt bummed about not getting a job, promotion, or even a date. It’s the lows of life. Just learn from this and move forward because that’s all you can do. There are plenty of teaching positions in this country and where I live, there’s a a shortage. Good luck!

 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

justwondering2015 :  I didn’t read all of the responses to this so my apologies if I’m repeating anything. I’m really sorry to hear this. It sucks, it really does. I’ve literally been down this road before. You will get through it.

I had interviewed in a district where I had just been brought on as an assistant soccer coach. I got to the final rounds, but didn’t get the job. I hadn’t subbed in the district or known anyone, and it was going to be my third year out of school (I graduated in 2009 in Ohio where teaching jobs at the time were few and far between) so I was asked to sub and I thought I could really establish myself there for the future.

Over that year, I coached the girls soccer team, and I had 2 long-term subbing assignments for a teacher who was pregnant and having a really rough pregnancy. In all, I was in her classroom a total of 10.5 weeks, and I subbed for other teachers at the high school on days when I wasn’t in her classroom. My second assignment took me through the end of the year, and a few weeks before school let out, I was told they were hiring a new position for the exact classes I had been teaching for this long-term subbing position. I worked my tail off to show them what I was capable of, and I rocked both interviews (initial and final). I was coaching the next year as well and I felt really good about my chances.

A couple days after the final interview, the principal showed up to my room in the morning, and told me they were going with someone with “more experience” (background: I am social studies certified which means lots of males and male coaches) aka he was a football coach and their current coach was about a year away from retiring. I took the news as best I could, keeping a straight face. When he left I was crying and had to teach the rest of the day, as well as another week or so (can’t exactly remember) as I was assigned to finish out the school year. It sucked, let me tell you. The nice secretary was telling me how they’d get me in every day the next year and tried to lessen the blow, but I’ll be honest – I was devastated. I had subbed for 3 years with no future prospects in sight.

I got a job working with another coach in her business office, and eventually moved on to a training position within a medical center and I’ve been here for 3.5 years now. It sucks that I got out of teaching but I’m happy where I am now and my future is open. I am not trying to tell you to quit teaching or anything, that was the path that ended up being right for me, but I can tell you that it will get better, whether you land another teaching job or decide to do something else. It felt like rock bottom for me, but you will get through it.

Sorry for the novel but I hope my story helps! I couldn’t help but read your tale and remember how awful that experience was for me and how far away from that experience I feel like I’ve come.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

justwondering2015 :  Try applying for VIPKIDs, it is an awesome oppurtunity for teachers who are looking for extra $$

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

justwondering2015 :  Have you thought about pursuing licensure in another area? I have my history license, but it’s really hard to get history jobs in my area: people in the humanities tend to stick around, so like 80-90% of the history teachers in my school have been here for 10-15+ years. Anyway, I got my ESL license along with my history license (I didn’t have to take any extra classes, the classes I took in grad school were enough) and I got a job right away. I LOVE history, but I also really love teaching ESL. At this point, I probably could pursue a history job elsewhere, but I’ve fallen in love with ESL. Just an idea – as some districts have huge needs in some areas but not others.

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