Passing thought: Anyone lie about their diamond engagement ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@asianbarbie: Hey if it gets the price down go for it. I also find it helpful when negotiating prices is for the company to know you will leave and go to a competitor if you can’t get the prices (reasonable) you want. 

As for your question, I’ve lied about my ring in terms saying I don’t know how much it costs when people ask me. I’m a pretty open person so when close friends and family ask I would tell them but I find if acquantices ask sometimes the reactions are a bit extreme so I just keep that info to myself now. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I woul just leave the e ring at home and wear a promise ring or something small when negotiating lololol.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

not even a lil bit, but there are times I wouldn’t wear it.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you’re looking for getting a good price on a wedding band, I would look on ebay! I went and shopped for rings to go with my e-ring and then found what I wanted on eBay for 1/3 the cost!

Legit jewellers post their rings on ebay bc its easy, affordable, and they might as well get more exposure!

Go shopping for what you want, get the details (aka white gold, .5 carrat diamond band, etc) and get some quotes… then look on ebay for the same thing and you will be amazed!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why lie? Just don’t wear your e-ring when shopping at places you can haggle. Much easier. Or do as my mother used too – she turned her e-ring to the underside if her hand so only a gold band showed. 

But I think you would be surprised at how few people (even jewelers) make assumptions about economic status or buying power based on one ring – unless you allow them to inspect it up close with a loupe. The best thing is to be an educated cosumer, asking intelligent questions, which tells them they can’t take advantage of you and that you are shopping around/ doing research. 

(Sadly, esp in luxury goods, poorer people get taken advantage of more than the wealthy because of factors like being intimadated by snobby sales ppl and wealthier people usually have far more buying options and product knowledge. Shady nasty sales ppl might try to rip off a poorer person thinking they will never buy another nice piece of jewelry again, but not a wealthier (appearing) person because they could be repeat customers. Sales ppl can easily shoot themselves in the foot making these misguided assumptions too.) 

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I wouldn’t lie about it. I would either leave my ring at home or wear something smaller/plainer. Or, you could wear your ring and just be clear that you can’t afford more than ___.

While it does depend on where you are looking at rings, most of the sales people at jewelery stores know the difference from a CZ and a diamond at first glance, so you might get caught in your lie (or just tick-off the person who is helping you). I would consider other options before lying about your ring. Happy ring shopping!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I got one of my two diamond bands practically for free by negotiating prices and using discounts sales and coupons, even with my solitaire on my finger. I wouldn’t lie to downgrade my diamond, just wouldn’t wear it if I didn’t want to be judged by it.

I can see the point ur making about making it look like ur strapped and willing to spend everything u can but its not much. But I figure it would be more effective to give the impression that u r smart enough to negotiate a lower price versus the pity routine. No salesperson is going to feel sorry for u and take a lower commission even if they think u r poor, in my opinion.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@asianbarbie:  just say you maximized your budget on your e-ring and only have $X for the band. There’s no need to be dishonest about it being CZ since they can often tell.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I would never lie about my E-ring, I hate lying and I’d feel like such a jacka$$ trying to act like I was/had something I don’t.  Plus, I believe lying about my e-ring to people means I’m secretly needing some kind of approval from them and that’s pure B.S.  On occassion I purposely don’t wear my E-ring because I know the people I’m going to be in contact with, and it’s mentally/emotionally easier for me to not have to feel that pressure from them to spend more than I want to because they think I have $$$.

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