Post # 1
I’m 40weeks and 1 day. We thought he was coming early due to some pre-labor a few weeks ago, but he’s still cooking. Since then however, EVERYONE is driving me crazy, especially my MIL and I’ve got to vent!
I’ve been pretty zen during this pregnancy about other people butting in. Strangers on the street giving me unsolicited advice? Co-workers making comments about my rapidly growing belly? People always asking to touch my belly? All of those things have been totally fine. I’m also 98% okay with him being overdue & having to wait until he’s ready to come out (the 2% that’s centered around my pelvis bones doesn’t really agree). In fact, when other pregnant ladies complained about all these things, I couldn’t understand why it would bother them. I understand now.
The constant texts, phone calls, facebook notes, & emails asking if he was here yet stopped for the most part after I posted on my blog that people need to STOP ASKING! Clearly, if he was here I WOULD HAVE TOLD THEM ALREADY!! These are not random aquaintences/co-workers – they are very close relatives. How do they think they’re being helpful?!
Also, my MIL keeps calling/texting/facebooking/emailing my DH & I with the most random, weird, condesending shit. Here’s some gems:
“I won’t ask you how you’re doing, since I know you’re terrible.”
“Good job not letting him be born yesterday, since it was [her ass-hole ex-husband’s] birthday.”
“I know it’s impossible to say not to stress, but you’ll survive this.”
“Good luck today.” (on his due date)
I’ve stopped responding to everyone at this point and told my DH that, if we have another baby we’re not telling anyone the actual due date because I’m going to explode from all this crazy attention.
Thanks for the place to vent, Hive. I used to have a blog for this kind of thing, but unfortunately my MIL checks that now on the regular so I can’t complain there anymore!
Post # 3
Just keep repeating, “The baby will come when he’s ready.”
Post # 4
Ugh. DH and I were talking the other day about how technology makes things like having a baby or announcing an engagement SO much more complicated.
No advice from me except “losing” the phone 🙂 Good luck with your MIL & keeping zen!
Post # 5
I’m so sorry! I just blew up at lunch with DH about this very thing, and I’m not even past due. I wish someone could tell everyone in the world that no pregnant woman ever wants to hear “is the baby coming today” or any variation of that. I have pretty much resigned myself to not hanging out with anyone other than DH until our LO gets here – I may not be able to control my response to the next person who brings it up. Feel free to vent away here and scream if you need to. Totally normal!
Post # 6
They need a “things NOT to say to a pregnant woman course” because some people are so ignorant to what they should allow to flow out of their mouths.
Post # 7
People are just concerned and excited for you, and just want to check in. Just try to take it in the spirit it was meant.
Post # 8
Agreed, “lose” the phone. Hand it over to your husband and have him respond/delete all the comments.
Post # 9
MIL’s have a way of doing that, don’t they? I love mine, but some days she drives me out of my tree too and I’m not pregnant, or overdue pregnant. I can’t imagine how many ways she’ll drive me insane when that time comes. I like the advice that the others have given to turn off your phone and ignore it until you’re too blissed out on your new babes to care what she says haha.
Post # 10
JulesSchnooks i agree with you. OP People are just excited for you. They are not trying to be rude, or obnoxious. I really dont think its meant to hurt hurt you when they check in with you. Yes its annoying, but it is the birth of your baby that is really exciting and people just want to share a happy moment with you. Your MIL just sounds like she trying to be supportive, and is just eager to meet her grandchild. Hope your LO comes soon enough for you.