(Closed) Past me sucks! Advice please?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3947 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Bring it up in the form of a question. Ask him what he thinks about marriage and when he would like to be married.  Follow it up by telling him how much you love him and care for him and can’t imagine a life without him.  Tell him everything you told us about the storm and how it really solidified the fact that you’d like to spend the rest of your life with him.

Opening up the lines of communication about marriage is a big and vital step if you would like things to progress.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Advice:

“Honey, i need to talk to you” (no, nothing like that!)

“Something has been weighing on my mind and who better then to speak to you.
I have been thinking a lot about everything that we have been through int he last 2 years, and expecially after Sandy. I have come to realise that What I have changed my mind about what I said when when we were just friends…I want to get married…to you. Baby, we’ve lost our home and after what would have normally broken a lot of couples, here we are and I am so happy about how far we have come. It has made me realize that I would like to formaly commit ourselves to each other, and I don’t want to wait until we have been togerthe for 5 years to do it. I feel we are ready to do this in the present. I love you and want to know how you feel about this?”

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Sapphire-Dreamer: OP, i think this is a good way to bring it up. definitely just try to open up the conversation by saying how much you love him, and how going through this really trying time with him made you more sure than ever that you want to spend your lives together. kind of see what he says before you then ask if he has a timeline in mind.

i personally pushed my FI a bit too much. he had said he wanted to marry me but was really dragging his feet so i pushed and pushed. he ordered the ring, i “let go” and he proposed 4 months later. once i knew he was serious about it, i had no problem “waiting”, and you sound much more level-headed than me so i think once you have more of a timeline you will feel much better!

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