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    j_nicolle    October 10, 2009   Midwest

    If you girls have a moment in your day, would you mind praying for my patience, or sending some my way?

    FI is trying to quit smoking this week. We've been though this before, and he's quit before but always relapsed. With a high stress job and remodeling a house that has to be ready by the end of the month I have a feeling that he's going to be tense and moody without his normal release.

    I'm going to try extra hard, and try to not let it get to me. I tend to take things personally, like if he's in a sour mood then I assume I did something or it's me.

    Well, enough with that. Thanks in advance for any thoughts! 

     
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    Anne79      

    Yikes, good luck and good thoughts to you. I am a grouch and snappish when I try to quite carbs for a week so I can only imagine nicotine withdrawal! Don't worry, you'll get through it and this is a great thing for him in the long run.

     
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    alundberg    February 13, 2010  

    Hey dear, sending LOTS and LOTS of happy thoughts your way!! Luckily, I met FI right as he was quitting smoking, so I got the tail-end of it, but I understand what you're going through - just stick with it and stay strong!! :) You love this man and are going to spend your life with this man.... and you are standing by his side, no matter what!! Keep up the awesome work, I know it's going to make you BOTH stronger!!

     
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    j_nicolle    October 10, 2009   Midwest

    Thanks so much guys! I appreciate the support! I may have to read these encouraging thoughts over and over again in the upcoming week (or weeks!).

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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    wow,..... sending HUGE amounts of happy thoughts to you and your FI. giving up is a huge thing so hopefully he can hold strong and you can hold it together to get him thru it.

    be prepared.. have some sweets on hand for him to suck and keep him busy so hes mind is off the cigarettes

    is he using the patches? ive head great things about them

    GOODLUCK!

     

     
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    happilywaiting       Massachusetts

    Sending you & your FI happy, positive thoughts & wishes! If the going gets "tough", do what I do, go for a walk around your neighborhood. Good luck!!!! :)

     
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    IA_Snowflake    August 29, 2009   Missouri Valley, IA

    Good luck!  My ex husband and I went through this several times and he was never successful (not to say your's won't be).  It was always hard to deal with the mood swings, etc.  Just try to remember what he's doing - he's probably doing it for his health and so that hels around longer for the both of you.

     
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    j_nicolle    October 10, 2009   Midwest

    Thanks for the candy idea eloping! I think I might head out a grab some of his favorite candies tomorrow morning while he's at work to surprise him with. 

    I forgot to add too, he asked me to hold on to his license so he can't buy more (he looks young). The first thing I said was, "What if you get pulled over!?!". He said he wouldn't Patience for me... :  wedding patience emotional Icon Razz. Really, he never does, and he works like 5 miles from our duplex, but it still scared me, lol. 

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    Fiance also quit smoking when he moved to Seattle to be with me... so I know what you are talking about!

    I'll send lots of calming thoughts your way!

     
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    bunny    July 3, 2009  

    Good luck! I'm trying to convince my FI to try to quit before the wedding, but we'll see how that goes ... Patience for me... :  wedding patience emotional Icon Neutral

     
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    Soon2BeMrsC    March 20, 2010   Wine Country

    Good luck!!  My dad quit smoking when I was 10 years old and I remember that it really isn't fun.  On the bright side, he did quit and the grumpiness did subside.  Try to remember that it really is only temporary.  I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel! 

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    Macintosh    April 28, 2012   Chicago, IL

    I can't tell you how many fights I had with my FI about his smoking.  He tried to quit twice before he finally succeeded.  He was soooo grumpy for the first few days!  He has had a couple of slip-ups since then but he's done really well.  Try no to take it personally when he's grumpy, and just think how great it'll be when you don't have to kiss Joe Camel and he can actually smell and taste again (not to mention breathe). Good luck to you both.

     

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