Post # 1
I am a little anxious over the thought of my bridesmaids paying for their dresses, as some have financial difficulty right now. I am not planning to choose an expensive dress, but still $100 dollars or so is a lot for some people right now. Also, some are long distance and can’t come to try on, so they may not even like the choice. Sooo…what if I told them that I want to go an untraditional route and pay for their dresses as their gift. I want this to be inexpensive and fun. Perhaps this is a nice way to keep it simple? Or is it sort of tacky, as I should be buying them an actual gift?
Post # 3
I don’t think its tacky at all. As a bridesmaid, I would want that more than a BM gift actually! 🙂 good plan!!
Post # 4
I think that’s incredibly generous of you.
If it were me, though, I would appreciate a thoughtful memento of the day as well. Maybe you can get them each frames as well with the intention of putting a picture from the wedding it in of you and each girl? Homegoods and TJ Maxx stores have amazing;y cheap, but beautiful, frames. It won’t cost you more than $10 per girl. Just a thought!
Post # 5
I don’t think that’s tacky at all either! I think its really considerate of you to do. I don’t think anyone accepts a request to be a BM just for the swag they get, so the gift isn’t necessarily a big part of the wedding stuff. I think if you’re more willing to make sure they aren’t burdened financially by getting a dress, it shows more thoughtfulness than maybe just a bracelet or whatever.
Post # 6
Personally I love when the bride pays for the dress- it’s an incredibly thoughtful gesture. It’s expensive to be a bridesmaid!
When I was maid of honor in my best friends wedding she bought my dress, and on the day the wedding gifted me a mani/pedi. More than enough.
Post # 7
Not tacky at all! Particularly lovely since they are flying in town =] Maybe you can pick a generic store like JCrew and let them try on the sizes so they can get what fits locally.
Post # 8
Great idea – I wish I could afford to do it. How many girls do you have though? I thought the same thing but then all of a sudden I had 8 BM and buying them gifts will be cheaper.
Post # 9
I don’t think that is tacky at all. I want a certain look for my wedding, so I am making my girls gowns, their jewelry, hair ornament, and buying their shoes. I only have two though, so it isn’t that bad.
Post # 10
Sounds like a great idea to me!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I think it’s a nice thing to do and I don’t think they’ll miss the usual bridesmaid gift at all.
Post # 12
I have 5 bridesmaids – well actually 3. I will probably ask the other two as soon as tonight. I think I will take the suggestion to buy them something small and sentimental anyway, in addition to the dress. Since my wedding will be in late summer, and it will be hot out – its a barn, outdoorsy location, I may be purchasing less expensive dresses, such as sundresses to lessen the burden on myself!
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I would totally rather have my dress paid for than bridesmaid trinkets. I think it’s great you’re thinking about doing this.
Post # 14
Omg! It’s the best idea ever!
That’s what I did for my bridesmaids and I know that they were super appreciative.
Post # 15
as a former bridesmaid (7 times) I would have LOVED to have the costs of my dress offset instead of the pearl necklaces, mongrammed bags, etc. All were great gifts and I appreciated them (and still use some of them), but several of those times I was a poor college student and not having the dress cost would have been equally appreciated. I never needed the swag or a trinket to remember my friend’s weddings by, so I think you being exteremely generous with paying for their dresses is a wonderful gift!